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Henry Cloud and John Townsend

When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

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Setting boundaries is an act of kindness.

Walls, fences, No Trespassing signs: when you think about it, your physical environment is delimited by all kinds of concrete boundaries. What’s more, those boundaries exist for good reason. That barbed wire fence around a nuclear power plant? It’s there for your own protection – it prevents you from inadvertently wandering into a hazardous zone.

Boundaries are just as necessary for your emotional and spiritual protection. Unlike physical boundaries, however, emotional and spiritual boundaries aren’t laid out in a way that’s clear to everyone. That can make it difficult to establish your own boundaries and to discern those of others. Worse, enforcing your boundaries can make you feel mean. But it shouldn’t.

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  • Introduction

  • 1

    Setting boundaries is an act of kindness.

  • 2

    Boundary issues can manifest themselves in many ways.

  • 3

    Don’t buy into common myths about healthy boundaries.

  • 4

    The journey toward a life with boundaries is long but rewarding.

  • 5

    We first learn boundaries from our families. 

  • 6

    Boundaries are the key to a fulfilling romantic relationship.

  • 7

    Boundaries also benefit friendships.

  • 8

    Personal boundaries are important in professional life, too. 

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What is Boundaries about?

Boundaries (1992) is a handbook for those who can’t say no, those who won’t take no for an answer, and everyone in between. Grounded equally in Christian faith and contemporary psychology, this book is an eloquent argument for the emotional and spiritual necessity of firm, healthy boundaries.

Who should read Boundaries?

  • Doormats who let others walk all over them;
  • Emotionally unavailable people who never let anyone in; and
  • Martyrs who do everything for others but accept no help in return.

About the Author

Dr. Henry Cloud is a clinical psychologist and leadership expert. Dr. John Townsend is a business consultant, leadership coach, and psychologist. Separately, each has authored multiple books on leadership and psychology. Together, they are co-authors of the New York Times best-selling Boundaries and leaders of the acclaimed GrowthSkills workshop series.

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