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Lysa TerKeurst

Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

4.2 (69 ratings)
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'Good Boundaries and Goodbyes' by Lysa TerKeurst is a self-help book that guides individuals on how to set healthy boundaries, learn to say no, and handle endings in life. It encourages readers to prioritize self-care and improve relationships.

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    Protect Your Identity

    Who are you?

    Take a moment to really think about it.

    What did God intend when he created the unique person that is you? If you can’t answer that question, then you’ve found the root of your boundary problems. The truth is, you have to know who you are in order to set good boundaries.

    And you also have to see yourself as being just as sufficient for God’s love as other people are. If you’re giving too much in your relationships because you believe it’s the Christian thing to do, you’re not alone in your misunderstanding of Christ’s command to forgive – more on that in a little while. 

    One way to really protect yourself from bad relationships is to build your relationship with God by spending time working on yourself. Sometimes when we don’t understand ourselves and our needs, we worry that God won’t be enough to fill the emptiness we’re feeling. This can lead to seeking out that fulfillment in other people.

    But other people will never be able to fill that empty feeling inside of you. Only God can do that. So the foundation of any good relationship has to start with you having a good relationship with yourself and with God.

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    What is Good Boundaries and Goodbyes about?

    Good Boundaries and Goodbyes (2022) offers a Christian perspective on setting healthy boundaries and learning when and how to say goodbye.

    Good Boundaries and Goodbyes Review

    Good Boundaries and Goodbyes (2023) is a valuable resource for anyone seeking to establish healthy boundaries in relationships and navigate the complexities of saying goodbye. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • It offers practical strategies for setting boundaries and walking away from toxic relationships, empowering readers to take control of their lives.
    • Through real-life stories and relatable examples, the book provides a deeper understanding of the importance of boundaries and the healing power of goodbyes.
    • With its compassionate and insightful approach, the book challenges conventional thinking and offers fresh perspectives on fostering healthy relationships.

    Best quote from Good Boundaries and Goodbyes

    Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. – Proverbs 4:23

    —Lysa TerKeurst
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    Who should read Good Boundaries and Goodbyes?

    • Christian women who want to feel healthier in their relationships
    • Christians seeking a way to balance personal health with relationship health
    • Anyone contemplating or going through divorce or separation

    About the Author

    Lysa Terkeurst is the New York Times best-selling author of Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. Besides her work as an author, Lysa is a frequent speaker at the She Speaks Conference and is the president of Proverbs 31 Ministries.

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    What is the main message of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes?

    Good Boundaries and Goodbyes teaches us the importance of setting healthy boundaries and letting go of relationships that no longer serve us.

    How long does it take to read Good Boundaries and Goodbyes?

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    Is Good Boundaries and Goodbyes a good book? Is it worth reading?

    Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is worth reading as it provides valuable insights on establishing boundaries and navigating farewells.

    Who is the author of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes?

    Lysa TerKeurst is the author of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes.

    What to read after Good Boundaries and Goodbyes?

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