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Alan E. Fruzzetti

A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy & Validation

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"The High-Conflict Couple" by Alan E. Fruzzetti is a comprehensive guide for couples struggling with intense, emotionally-charged conflicts. The book offers practical tools and strategies for communication, problem-solving, and emotional regulation to improve relationship satisfaction.


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    Being mindful of your emotional state helps you avoid unnecessary fights.

    Think back to the last big fight you had with your partner. Do you remember what caused it, and the emotions you felt leading up to it? 

    While it’s easy to recall being angry or upset, identifying the feelings themselves can be really hard. We all know that emotions are a central part of relationship conflict, and there’s nothing wrong with that. The problem is when they get the better of you and you end up saying something you regret, or find yourself in an argument that’s going nowhere. 

    Because as important as emotions are, our understanding of them is often surprisingly limited. And it doesn’t take much to knock us off balance.

    The key message here is: Being mindful of your emotional state helps you avoid unnecessary fights.

    Everybody has a baseline emotional state where they’re able to think clearly and communicate well. Emotional arousal occurs when something knocks you out of this baseline. It’s not necessarily a bad thing – in fact, research shows that small to moderate amounts of stress keep you alert and improve your performance at tasks.

    But, once you move past this moderate level, performance gets considerably worse. Some people reach this point faster than others, but the end result is the same for everyone: instead of thinking clearly, your only goal becomes reducing your feelings of negative arousal.

    In relationships, high emotions affect your ability to communicate well. And once you’ve been knocked off your baseline by negative feelings, your thinking becomes more downbeat and judgmental. 

    Say you’ve been looking forward to spending more time with your partner, but he comes home late. Instead of being clear about how his actions make you feel, if you’re in a state of emotional arousal you might make a nasty comment about him never being around. This would probably knock your partner off his baseline, and the rest is ugly conflict.

    Luckily, there are ways to train yourself to stay balanced. One of the most effective is mindfulness, or being more aware of how you’re feeling. In other words, if you can recognize when you’re reaching emotional arousal, you’ll be much better at managing it. 

    A great way to practice is by learning to describe your feelings without judgment. Ask yourself: What’s going on? What physical sensations am I feeling? This will help lower your arousal and put you in a state where you can assess the situation without creating unnecessary conflict.

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    Worum geht es in The High-Conflict Couple?

    The High-Conflict Couple (2007) is a guide to overcoming the common relationship pitfalls that lead to conflict and animosity. Drawing upon years of psychology research and therapy experience, Alan E. Fruzzetti explains where conflict comes from and how it can be reduced.

    Bewertung von The High-Conflict Couple

    The High-Conflict Couple (2006) is an insightful book that offers practical strategies for resolving conflicts in relationships. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • It provides real-life examples and case studies, helping readers understand the dynamics of high-conflict relationships and offering concrete solutions.
    • The book offers tools and techniques to effectively communicate and manage emotions, empowering couples to navigate conflicts and build healthier relationships.
    • With its emphasis on empathy and understanding, the book fosters personal growth and guides couples towards a more harmonious future, making it anything but boring.

    Wer The High-Conflict Couple lesen sollte

    • Couples tired of fighting with each other
    • People who struggle to accept the things they cannot change
    • Anyone wanting to be more present in their own life

    Über den Autor

    Alan E. Fruzzetti, PhD, is associate professor of psychology and director of the Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Research Program at the University of Nevada, Reno. He provides extensive training, supervision, and consultation for DBT treatment programs and DBT research in the United States and abroad. Fruzzetti is also research director and member of the board of directors of the National Educational Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder and a co-developer of the Family Connections Program. 

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    The main message of The High-Conflict Couple is to help couples understand and manage conflict in a healthy and productive way.

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    The High-Conflict Couple is worth reading as it provides valuable insights and strategies to improve relationships and resolve conflicts effectively.

    Who is the author of The High-Conflict Couple?

    The author of The High-Conflict Couple is Alan E. Fruzzetti.

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