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Blink 3 of 8 - The 5 AM Club
by Robin Sharma
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Ian Kerner
The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
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Focus on cunnilingus over penetration to make a woman climax.
To be successful in the bedroom, it’s all about size and thrusting power, right? Well, not quite.
Most believe that the key to good sex is long, hard penetration. But to orgasm, a woman needs to have her clitoris stimulated.
Studies have shown that the clitoris is three times as sensitive as the vaginal wall.
For those claiming that G-spot climaxes are far more intense than clitoral orgasms, here’s an interesting fact. The G-spot is actually the base of the clitoris and is stimulated during penetration, so this type of orgasm is inseparable from clitoral orgasms.
To truly experience mutual pleasure, penetration can actually be left out completely. The only reason penetration and male ejaculation are necessary during sex is to procreate. Neither are needed if the goal is to make your female partner orgasm.
Still doubtful about the role of the clitoris? Then listen up. People who have the congenital condition vaginal agenesis are born without a vagina, but with external genitals. They are still able to orgasm.
So what can you do to achieve your goal of making a woman orgasm? Focus on what your tongue can do.
Cunnilingus is by far the best way to get a woman to climax. Think about it: your tongue is made up of several muscles and nerves held together by a membrane covered with taste buds. As a highly flexible organ, it’s ideal for both tasting and stimulation.
Several surveys have shown that for women, oral sex is a surefire way to reach orgasm.
Using your tongue may be the best way to satisfy a woman, but due to the complexity of the clitoris, there’s definitely an art to getting it right.
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What is She Comes First about?
She Comes First (2004) is a guide to improving a woman’s sexual experience through the act of cunnilingus. It emphasizes the value of the female orgasm and argues for a reduced focus on penetration.
Who should read She Comes First?
- People intent on becoming a better lover
- Anyone wanting to improve their cunnilingus skills
- Those interested in female biology
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