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Justin Baldoni

Undefining My Masculinity

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    Courage beyond bravado

    Have you ever taken a serious risk, not because you wanted to, but because you were afraid of being perceived as weak or as a coward? Well, it’s common for boys to feel pressure to prove their masculinity by suppressing emotions and engaging in daring feats, even when afraid.

    The author recounts a pivotal moment from his youth when, trembling with fear, he jumped off a bridge into a raging river, not out of courage, but to avoid being mocked by his peers. This drive to uphold unwritten rules of manliness, he realized, emerges from a culture that equates expressing vulnerability with femininity and, hence, weakness.

    In some ways, the author was lucky. He was raised by loving parents who accepted his sensitivity. But he received a different set of lessons about masculinity in the schoolyard, where showing feelings or befriending girls put him at risk of being labeled as "gay" – the ultimate insult. Faced with this, the author describes how he began to disconnect from his emotions.

    This story is a common one. The author quotes author and scholar bell hooks, who writes: 

    “The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves.”

    For the author, this emotional suppression ran deep. Facing bullying as a youth, he felt isolated and unable to talk about his struggle. His father, a caring but stoic man, seemed to lack the tools to help him. It took hitting rock bottom in his twenties for the author to finally begin dismantling this armor. Bankrupt, heartbroken and spiraling, he turned to female friends who modeled healthy vulnerability for him. 

    Slowly, he learned to reconnect with his feelings. But in doing so, he began to confront a jarring reality – beneath the surface, he was deeply afraid: afraid of failure, of irrelevance, of not being enough. He realized he needed to begin facing these fears head-on. 

    Still desperate for support, the author decided to organize a "guys' trip." Although he framed the getaway as just another fun, casual escape, he had a secret mission: to finally let his guard down and reveal to his friends the fears and insecurities he’d kept hidden behind a mask of bravado.

    As the trip unfolded, he struggled to find the right moment – but then something unexpected happened: a friend broke the ice with a raw confession of his own, unleashing a torrent of truth-telling. One by one, the men began sharing their deepest secrets, from childhood traumas to present-day addictions, discovering that, in their pain, they were far more alike than they had ever realized. In the newfound safety of this circle, the author mustered the courage to admit his complicated relationship with pornography, his fear of failing as a man, and his yearning for a different way of being.

    This transformative experience yielded a valuable lesson. True strength lies not in hiding our vulnerabilities, but in having the guts to share them with others – people who can meet us with compassion and help us carry weight we were never meant to bear alone.

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    What is Man Enough about?

    Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity (2021) is a thought-provoking exploration of the societal expectations and pressures surrounding masculinity. Through candid anecdotes and introspective reflections, the book challenges traditional notions of manhood, inviting readers to embrace vulnerability, sensitivity, and empathy as essential human qualities. It calls for men to break free from limiting gender roles and redefine masculinity on their own terms.

    Man Enough Review

    Man Enough (2021) explores the concept of masculinity in modern society and challenges traditional norms and expectations. Here's why this book is worth your time:

    • Offers insightful perspectives on redefining masculinity, encouraging readers to reflect on their own beliefs and behaviors.
    • Features personal stories from the author and other men, creating a relatable and honest narrative that resonates with readers.
    • Highlights the importance of vulnerability and emotional intelligence in fostering healthier relationships and self-acceptance, making it a compelling and relevant read.

    Who should read Man Enough?

    • Those who identify as men who feel confined by traditional gender roles and yearn for a more authentic way of living
    • People who want to cultivate deeper, more meaningful relationships
    • Anyone who wants to better understand and support the men in their lives

    About the Author

    Justin Baldoni is an actor, director, producer, and entrepreneur. He is the author of the New York Times bestseller Boys Will Be Human, which explores the impact of rigid gender roles and advocates for a more equitable world.

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    Understanding masculinity in modern society and embracing vulnerability and empathy.

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    Man Enough is a must-read for its insights on redefining masculinity positively.

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