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Rollo Tomassi

Sexual Strategy for Men and Insight Into the Red Pill Ideology

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The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi is a thought-provoking book that illuminates the intricacies of male-female dynamics. It urges men to embrace their masculinity, develop a strategic mindset and understand female nature to lead fulfilling lives.

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    It’s a woman’s world

    Is there any chance of a man and a woman having equal stakes and working towards the same outcome in a sexual relationship?

    The Manosphere doesn’t believe so. One sex will always manage to prioritize its interests. When this happens, the winner’s personal goals become relationship goals.

    Women, they argue, are winning that battle. It’s not even close. It’s a knockout. Women boss their relationships, but they wouldn’t want any man to know.

    For the most part, this female power is an instinct. It’s evolutionary. To survive, women have incrementally built this agency over time, then reinforced their ability through changes that have happened in society.

    The sexual revolution that happened in the 60s took these changes even further.

    In a world dominated by news of the crushing influence of the patriarchy, sexual abuse, discrimination, and the fight for equality, this assertion is jarring.

    What’s the evidence women rule the mating game?

    The author believes it’s so obvious we overlook female dominance. Men, he argues, are conditioned from birth to serve women. When your mother sat you on her lap and told you to grow up to be gentleman, you were being groomed to conform to your future girlfriend’s whims.

    Every life decision you make about your education, job, where you live – all these choices are made with your current or future female partner in mind. She decides how many kids you have, and has all sorts of birth control methods to use behind your back.

    You like to think you chose your partner, but she actually chose you. If you marry and divorce, you go on to pay alimony and child support because society has been conditioned to put her interests first.

    These are all examples of how your wife dominates you. So how does she make sure you stay in line?

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    What is The Rational Male about?

    The Rational Male (2013) implores men to adopt a pragmatic view of intersexual relationships founded on evolutionary and behavioral concepts. Waking up to the evidence, it argues, will set men on a course to prioritizing their needs over the survival instincts of women who currently (covertly) rule the roost.

    The Rational Male Review

    The Rational Male (2013) provides a thought-provoking exploration of gender dynamics and intersexual relationships that is worth reading. Here's why this book is a good choice:

    • It offers a deep analysis of the nature of masculinity, femininity, and the societal forces that shape them, providing valuable insights into human behavior.
    • Through personal experiences and anecdotal evidence from the author's own life, the book presents a relatable and authentic perspective on dating and relationships.
    • The book challenges conventional wisdom and promotes critical thinking about gender dynamics, making it a compelling and thought-provoking read.

    Who should read The Rational Male?

    • Members of the Manospehere and Red Pill movement
    • Anyone trying to understand the key concepts of the Manosphere 
    • People looking to understand today’s gender conflicts

    About the Author

    Rollo Tomassi is a behavioral psychologist whose writing is prominent in the Manosphere, a diverse group of men’s rights activists and sympathizers. His influence in the community has earned him the moniker “Godfather of the Red Pill.” The Rational Male is the first in a series of male-centric books of the same name that include Preventive Medicine, Positive Masculinity, and The Players Handbook.

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    What is the main message of The Rational Male?

    The main message of The Rational Male is an exploration of intersexual dynamics and the realities of the modern sexual marketplace.

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    Is The Rational Male a good book? Is it worth reading?

    The Rational Male is a thought-provoking book that offers valuable insights into gender dynamics. It is definitely worth a read.

    Who is the author of The Rational Male?

    The author of The Rational Male is Rollo Tomassi.

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