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Name: Surrounded by Narcissists
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Author: Thomas Erikson

Thomas Erikson

How to Effectively Recognize, Avoid, and Defend Yourself Against Toxic People (and Not Lose Your Mind)

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What’s in it for me? Protecting yourself from narcissists

These days, narcissists are everywhere. In addition to politicians and social media influencers, there might even be a couple of narcissists you know personally. Maybe you’re sick of a self-obsessed friend or losing patience with your partner’s manipulative tendencies.

Luckily, behavior expert Thomas Erikson has identified some helpful strategies for dealing with narcissists. We’ll cover a few of these techniques, which you can use in any egocentric-driven situation.

You probably won’t be able to change these individuals. But if you can recognize certain behaviors and learn how to respond, you’ll avoid getting manipulated or hurt.

In this Blink, you’ll learn:

how to recognize narcissistic behavior;
how to respond when you feel you’re being manipulated; and
when you should walk away – or even cut someone out of your life.

You probably know quite a few narcissists.

When you hear the word “narcissist,” what qualities come to mind? Vanity, perhaps? Self-obsession?

As you may know, the term comes from a Greek myth about a handsome young man. Narcissus was so beautiful that everyone who saw him fell in love with him. But no one loved Narcissus more than he loved himself.

In one version of the myth, Narcissus sits by a pond, gazing lovingly at his own reflection. He’s so obsessed that he stays there until he starves to death.

So yes, self-obsession is part of it. But narcissism is a complicated personality disorder. There’s more to it than just liking yourself a bit too much.

Also, in real life, the victims of narcissists are usually other people.

Thomas Erikson, the author of Surrounded by Narcissists, wants to help us to avoid becoming victims.

First, he says, we need to know how to recognize narcissists. The ones you encounter won’t be handsome young men staring at their reflection in a pond.

Instead, it might be a coworker who’s quick to criticize others – but blows up if you offer them honest feedback.

Or it could be the friend who only wants to talk about themselves.

It may even be your partner or someone in your family. Perhaps you’ve noticed that this person can be deceitful – even manipulative – at times.

Think about it for a moment. Do you know someone who behaves like that? Thought so.

Narcissists hurt people, and are very unlikely to change.

As you reflect on the egocentric people you know, you might be wondering, Are narcissists really that bad? They’re annoying – but it’s not like they’re violent psychopaths. They’re not dangerous . . . right?

Well, it depends on how you define “dangerous.” Narcissists can certainly be psychologically dangerous. Cheating, lying, manipulating, gaslighting, love bombing, playing mind games – all of these harmful behaviors can damage people’s mental health.

Use self-awareness to deal with narcissists.

Maybe you’re still not entirely convinced of the risks posed by narcissists. As long as you don’t let yourself get manipulated, what’s the problem?

The problem is this: to a certain degree, everyone is susceptible to narcissists. They’re masters of manipulation, and even experts get taken in.

Call out manipulative behavior, or take a break from the conversation.

Let’s say you’re a red. When you feel like you’re losing control of the situation, you can get pretty worked up. Narcissists know this – and they know how to use your emotions against you. It’s a form of manipulation.

As you talk to a narcissist about a problem with their behavior, maybe you start getting angry. You raise your voice slightly. Then they say, I knew this would happen. You’re always yelling.

Set boundaries, and if necessary, cut ties to break free from a narcissist.

Now you know how to handle a conversation with a narcissist. Unfortunately, though, it’s unlikely to be a one-off. If someone has been manipulative once, they’re bound to do it again.

That’s why you’ll need some additional methods for dealing with narcissists. Let’s look at how to set boundaries.

Society is becoming more narcissistic.

You can break up with a partner or cut ties with a friend. But what if you feel like you’re literally surrounded by narcissists?

It’s not just the people you know personally. It’s politicians, fame-hungry Instagram influencers, reality TV stars . . . narcissism is everywhere.

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Worum geht es in Surrounded by Narcissists?

Surrounded By Narcissists (2022) is a guide to recognizing narcissists and understanding how they operate. Erikson suggests simple, effective methods for dealing with any narcissists you know, whether it’s your partner, a relative, someone you work with, or possibly all three – you may be surrounded.

Wer Surrounded by Narcissists lesen sollte

Victims of narcissists
Empaths who are worried about being manipulated
Anyone who’s interested in psychology or personality types

Über den Autor

Thomas Erikson is a Swedish behavior expert, lecturer and bestselling author. His books include Surrounded By Idiots and Surrounded By Setbacks. Erikson has trained thousands of executives and salespeople using the DISC model, which highlights behavior and communication patterns.

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