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Name: One Decision
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Author: Mike Bayer

Mike Bayer

The First Step to a Better Life

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'One Decision' by Mike Bayer is a self-improvement book that guides readers to transform their lives by making one important decision. It provides proven techniques and inspiring stories to help individuals unleash their potential.

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What’s in it for me? Learn how to make better decisions!

Have you ever thought about how people come to certain decisions? It might seem like a matter of considering the pros and cons. In reality, there’s a lot more going on. The way people view situations and what they choose to do is often the result of fear, overwhelming emotions, or a negative mindset. These blinks highlight the forces behind your decisions and provide tools for adopting a positive mindset that leads to better decision-making.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

what differentiates opportunities from obstacles;
why being strong and sturdy can damage an oak tree; and
how to stop emotions from taking over.

Deciding to see opportunities can change your life.

What’s something that we all do, without fail, every single day?

We make decisions. About 35,000 of them, in fact.

Most of these decisions are instinctive; we’re not even aware of making them. We reach for the coffee every morning instead of making a cup of tea, or we tune into a preferred news channel. These decisions don’t impact us in major ways, but there’s one conscious decision that can bring positive change to our lives.

Whether it’s a dream career, a healthier lifestyle, or more fulfilling relationships, a better life isn’t something that just happens. It’s the result of many intentional decisions. And the first and most important of these is choosing to see opportunities rather than obstacles.

The key message here is: Deciding to see opportunities can change your life.

There are opportunities in any situation, no matter how bad it may seem. When you focus on them, you become optimistic and solutions-oriented. You can then take actions that allow you to grow, learn new things, and steer your life in positive directions. When you focus on obstacles, on the other hand, your problems seem unsolvable. You feel stuck and sorry for yourself. You might even blame others or make excuses for your circumstances.

A great example is a retiree who finds himself struggling financially. Looking at the obstacles, he might be disappointed at the thought of going back to work. He could worry that his skills are no longer relevant. But what if he decides to look for the opportunities instead? He could see this as a chance to learn something new. He could reach out to his network to ask if they know of any vacancies. One option keeps him stuck; the other moves him forward.

So what does it take to switch from an obstacle mindset to one primed for opportunities?

The key is understanding the thinking patterns that shape how we view the world. They determine whether we perceive opportunities or obstacles. The author sees these patterns as positive and negative forces. Allowing the negative forces to take over makes us pessimistic and blinds us to opportunities. And tapping into the positive forces reveals opportunities to us.

In the following blinks, we’ll learn more about each of these forces.

Fortune-telling blinds us to opportunities.

Here’s a scenario: Keia has been working at a company for about a year. She feels it’s time for a raise. But as she considers bringing it up with her manager, Keia starts telling herself that she’ll get rejected. She imagines that her manager will say she hasn’t earned it, or that the company can’t afford it. Soon, she talks herself out of even broaching the subject.

Now, Keia probably wouldn’t call herself a fortune-teller. But in this scenario, she’s behaving like one. And she’s not alone. We often convince ourselves that we know what’s going to happen. And then we make decisions based on those predictions. But more often than not, those predictions are baseless.

To stop overgeneralizing, practice objective thinking.

Have you ever found yourself jumping to a conclusion after one small incident? Maybe you made a mistake after a few days in a new role and then convinced yourself that you weren’t cut out for the job. Or maybe a harsh review led you to believe that a colleague didn’t like you.

In both these instances, there’s a negative force at play. It’s called overgeneralizing.

A rigid mindset hurts us, while a relaxed one makes us adaptable.

Picture a large oak tree in the middle of an open field. Its trunk is strong and solid, and it’s been standing for many decades. Just a few feet away from the oak tree, there’s a tall, thin palm tree. Unlike the oak, the palm’s trunk is flexible.

Now, let’s say that an incredibly powerful wind blows through the field for several hours.

You can overcome confusion by finding purpose.

Let’s face it, making important decisions can be incredibly difficult. So much so that we sometimes go round in circles.

We weigh the pros and cons repeatedly, imagining every possible outcome. We ask everyone for their opinion. Eventually, we settle on a decision. Or at least we think we do. All it takes is a tiny, nagging thought or a comment about something we haven’t considered, and we’re back at square one. Indecision like this can be very frustrating. This negative force is confusion. It doesn’t just overwhelm us. It holds us back.

Base your decisions on evidence rather than emotions.

When was the last time you felt blinded by anger or like you were bursting with joy? How about crippled by anxiety?

Emotions are completely natural. Your emotions protect you, provide motivation, and help you form relationships. But they can also be overwhelming. They can drive you to make decisions based on what you feel, instead of what’s actually happening. And in most cases, such decisions aren’t in your best interests.

Put together a team to guide and support you in your decisions.

If you’re a fan of award shows, then you’ve likely noticed something they all have in common. The awards might celebrate music, movies, or TV shows, but whatever the category, winners always get up on stage and acknowledge the people who supported them.

Sure, the winners sang hit songs alone. Or they acted in front of the cameras solo. But no matter how talented they are, they couldn’t have succeeded without the help of others. And this is true for every person, whether they’re building an acting career or simply navigating important life decisions.

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One Decision (2020) is a guide to understanding the various thinking patterns that determine whether we see obstacles or opportunities. It breaks down why we often base decisions on the bleak outlook created by rigidity and confusion and provides practical tools for fostering an opportunity mindset and making life-changing decisions.

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When we are looking to pivot in any area of life, or to create change, we must be willing to try something new.

—Mike Bayer

Wer One Decision lesen sollte

People who feel overwhelmed by obstacles
Those who are stuck in a cycle of bad decisions
Anyone who wants to create a better life

Über den Autor

Mike Bayer is a sought-after personal development coach and the founder of CAST Centers, a leading mental health and wellness facility. He hosts the Always Evolving podcast and is a regular contributor on the Dr. Phil television show. Bayer is also the author of the New York Times best-seller Best Self.

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