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Name: No-Drama Discipline
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Author: Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson

Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson

The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

4.5 (300 Bewertungen)

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No-Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson provides a new perspective on discipline that is based on understanding the child's developing brain. It offers practical strategies to teach kids to manage their emotions while fostering connection and skill-building.

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What’s in it for me? Learn how to become a more effective parent.

Parenthood is an enriching experience like no other, but that doesn’t mean it can’t get tough sometimes. When it comes to raising children, it can be difficult to know to what extent you should let them express themselves freely and when you should intervene.

Moreover, disciplining a child is not always an easy task and can often be emotionally draining. Arguments over small things – such as washing the dishes or turning off the TV – can quickly escalate, putting pressure on your relationship and well-being.

It’s therefore essential to discipline your child in a positive manner. The authors explain how effective disciplining can only be achieved by first understanding how the brain works. By following their advice, your children will become more receptive to your parenting which, over time, will strengthen the bond between you.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

the difference between the upstairs and downstairs brain;
how to connect with your children; and
what to do when your child has a meltdown.

Discipline should be a lesson to learn from rather than a form of punishment.

Think back to the last time you disciplined your child for misbehaving. What did you do? Perhaps you lectured them, yelled at them or put them in time-out?

But have you really thought about what you’re doing when disciplining a child?

Conventional discipline uses a standard approach of punishment and fear instead of focusing on the development of the child.

To explore this further, let’s take a look at time-outs: this method is used by even the most loving parents, who expect the child to utilize the time-out to reflect on their misbehavior. But that rarely happens. Instead, children usually spend the time reflecting on how mean their parents are, which tends to escalate the situation.

Another traditional form of discipline is spanking. When spanked, children become more fearful of their parent’s actions, rather than focusing on their own behavior – thus making this physical punishment counterproductive.

Time-outs and spanking are applied to misbehaving children regardless of the situation, but inducing fear and resentment isn’t helpful to either the parents or the kids. What if we change our thinking and approach discipline as an opportunity to learn valuable lessons?

To do so, discipline needs to emphasize teaching over punishment in a manner that’s both more intentional and flexible.

Discipline should be proactive instead of reactive – that’s the notion behind no-drama discipline. The short-term goal is getting your child to cooperate with you, while the long-term goal is helping them to improve their behaviors and relationship skills. For this to work, we need to connect and redirect, which refers to the connection you must build with your child prior to redirecting them toward good behavior.

As a bonus, if we look at misdemeanors as an opportunity to teach important lessons, then gradually, you won’t have to discipline your child as much.

The brain can be molded, so we should see misbehavior as an opportunity for development.

Have you ever gotten unreasonably mad due to tiredness? You probably tried to hold it together, but in the end, it got the better of you. Well, children can behave the same way, as the part of their brain that regulates emotion is not yet fully developed.

Because the part of the brain that’s in charge of behavior and relationship skills needs time to form, we do have the ability to shape it.

Connecting with your children when they misbehave puts them in a receptive state and integrates their brain.

Effective discipline is built on a loving and supportive relationship between parent and child.

To have this kind of relationship, you need to transfer your children from a reactive state to a receptive one by connecting with them.

Connect with your child by communicating comfort, offering validation and listening.

We’ve looked at the importance of connecting with your children when they’re misbehaving. Now let’s see how we can build those connections. Connecting with your kids is all about listening and being there to help them during their difficult moments.

You can build a connection with your children by offering validation and communicating comfort. An effective way to communicate comfort is through non-verbal gestures such as nodding or hugging. However, verbal validation is equally important, and one way we can validate their experience is by identifying the emotion they’re feeling.

Keep your responses flexible by checking in with yourself, chasing the why and considering the how.

An essential part of the no-drama discipline is ensuring response flexibility. This means adapting your response to a situation depending on the child’s temperament, age and level of mental and social development.

To ensure response flexibility, you need to examine your own mental condition.

Practice mindsight outcomes to redirect your kid toward good behavior.

In order to redirect your child toward a positive emotional and relational life, you need to teach them how to develop mindsight outcomes. Mindsight is the ability to use insight and empathy to solve a problem.

You can help your kids develop mindsight outcomes by disciplining them through empathy and insight-constructive conversations.

When redirecting misbehavior, draw on the positives and refrain from lecturing.

Sometimes you have to say no to your child. Though every kid and every circumstance is different, we can still refer to general strategies that will help minimize the situation and redirect it to something more comfortable for you and your child.

The first thing to remember when redirecting them toward good behavior is to focus on the positive, and, when you can, provide them with a conditional yes instead of a flat-out no.

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No-Drama Discipline (2014) provides a fresh approach to disciplining children by emphasizing the importance of teaching over punishment. Based on neuroscience, this method reduces drama and guides parents on how to build a deeper relationship with their children.

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We need to see their mind and recognize their internal state, then join with them in what we see and how we respond.

—Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson

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Über den Autor

Daniel J. Siegel works at the UCLA School of Medicine as a psychiatrist and is the founder of the Mindful Awareness Research Center.

Tina Payne Bryson is a social worker specializing in adolescent and pediatric psychotherapy. She’s also the founder of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, California.

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