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Name: I’m Ok, You’re Ok
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Author: Thomas A. Harris

Thomas A. Harris

Discover your inner parent and your inner child

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What’s in it for me? Master your inner child and parent.

We’ve all been there. In the heat of an argument, or when discussing a touchy issue, you suddenly start to sound a lot like your mom or dad. Maybe it’s a horribly regressive argument your mom used to drill into you about upholding female beauty standards, or maybe it’s your father berating you for crying and yelling at you to “act like a man.” Maybe it’s uncontrollable anxiety that is triggered when you and your partner get into a fight, because of abandonment issues from your childhood.

It can be unsettling to look our inner child or parent squarely in the face – but according to the author, all of us have these two forces within us. Luckily, there are ways to recognize and control these parts of ourselves, and to set new patterns of thought and behavior.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

why birth is inherently traumatic;
that many people get stuck in prejudice; and
why you should foster your inner child’s playfulness.

Our memories are linked to powerful emotions that are better understood when analyzed.

Have you ever heard a loved one talk in his or her sleep?

You may think these nocturnal mutterings are rather mysterious – but they’re actually prompted by memories stored in the brain.

Certain parts of the brain are responsible for our memories and the feelings we associate with them.

This was first discovered in 1951 by the Montreal brain surgeon Wilder Penfield, who stimulated certain parts of his patients’ brains with an electrode. Since the patients were only under local anesthesia, they could describe the different responses to the various areas being stimulated, which is how Penfield found that the temporal cortex of the brain is connected to visual memory, language and emotion.

When Penfield touched a certain point on the patient’s brain, the patient would make seemingly random statements, such as describing a previous conversation or a popular television commercial.

What was really impressive was that the patient didn’t only reexperience the memory but also felt emotions connected to it. In other words, the patients relived the experience emotionally, not only recalled it.

You can also relive memories unconsciously.

Our own memories are most often triggered by everyday occurrences and impressions, such as sounds or smells. Once triggered, these memories can cause us to relive past experiences.

Though this process usually happens unconsciously, we can also take the time to dig up memories, especially when we want to analyze our emotions.

For example, say there’s a song that makes you feel sad whenever you hear it. You may not understand this unconscious reaction, but if you were to sit down, perhaps with a therapist, you could figure out which past experience and emotions the song is attached to.

The author did this very thing with a patient to help her remember that her mother, who died when she was just five years old, used to play a particular song on the piano.

Transactional analysis recognizes three main personality components: the Child, Parent and Adult.

When you hear the phrase “multiple personalities,” you might think of someone with a psychological disorder. However, having different personalities may be more common than you think.

Psychologist Eric Berne, who passed away in 1970, developed a form of therapy called transactional analysis, and one of the main principles is that everyone has three main personality components.

Early childhood memories can lead to feelings of insecurity and the impression that others are stronger.

If you try to think back to your earliest memories, how far can you go? Most of us can’t recall anything from our first two years of life, but that doesn’t mean this period doesn’t have a lasting impact.

It’s important to remember that there is a difference between consciously recalling an experience and unconsciously reliving it. Evidence from transactional analysis tells us that our emotional reactions regularly cause us to unconsciously relive our earliest childhood experiences, even if we can’t remember them.

People tend to adhere to old patterns of behavior, but these patterns can be broken.

Even if you’ve sworn never to behave like your mother or father, chances are you’ll eventually catch yourself doing exactly that.

We’re all programmed by old patterns of behavior that are informed by the Parent and Child parts of our personality.

We can learn to recognize the Child, Parent and Adult within us.

Part of growing up is learning to recognize the emotions of others by looking at their facial expressions. In a similar way, you can learn to recognize your own inner Child, Adult and Parent.

The best way to do this is to understand the different physical cues that accompany each one.

The Parent, Child and Adult are susceptible to contamination and suppression.

As the saying goes, “Two’s company and three’s a crowd.” And this goes for the different components of our personality as well, since they don’t always know how to peacefully get along with each other.

A common problem is that the Parent or Child can prohibit the Adult from functioning properly.

Our inner Child likes to play games that allow it to feel superior and garner sympathy.

Children love to play games, whether it’s Monopoly or hide-and-seek.

But sometimes our inner Child can play some troublesome psychological games, such as asserting superiority over others.

To arrive at the point of “I’m okay,” you must recognize your emotional patterns and change them.

Everyone, at one point or another, feels so overwhelmed that they believe things will never get any easier. But if you’re able to step back and look at things with a fresh perspective, you’ll see that this isn’t a realistic outlook.

There’s a similar process of recognizing your own emotional patterns that will allow you to arrive at the feeling of “I’m okay.”

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I’m Ok, You’re Ok (1969) is a valuable guide to understanding how our past experiences and memories affect our life in the present. Even our earliest childhood years can keep us from leading the life we desire – so find out how you can take control of your emotions and break free from the past in order to have a healthy and happy future.

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Continual observation has supported the assumption that these three states exist in all people.

—Thomas A. Harris

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Decision makers who have trouble actually making decisions
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Über den Autor

Thomas A. Harris is a successful psychiatrist who worked for the United States Navy. He later became a university professor and founded an association for Transactional Analysis, a therapeutic method based on the ideas of psychologist Dr. Eric Berne.

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