The Love Prescription summary

Another way to connect to your partner is by asking questions.

Think back for a moment and try to remember what it was like when the two of you first started dating. You were probably fascinated by each other, asking a million questions. It’s thrilling getting to know the person you could potentially spend the rest of your life with.

Your partner is a fascinating, complex, unique individual who deserves to be treated as such. Having said that, some things are simple and universal. For instance, everyone likes to feel appreciated. You, your partner, and the rest of the world.

Luckily, making someone feel appreciated is pretty simple. Here’s an example of how two little words can make all the difference.

Saying “thank you” is one way to express your appreciation. Here’s something else you can do that’s just as easy: give your partner a compliment.

Again, like some of the other things we’ve looked at so far, it may sound a bit obvious. Maybe you already compliment your partner, or you know you should do it more often.

By this point, you’re probably noticing some themes emerging. The importance of actions, for example, and clear communication.

Your partner has all kinds of wonderful qualities, but you know what they’re not? A mind reader. They don’t know what you’re thinking, or what you need right now.

So far we’ve only been focusing on verbal communication. You may be wondering, What about the physical side of a relationship? And yes, that matters too. Touch is incredibly important for all of us.

You see, physical intimacy is like a drug. A kiss or a hug releases the hormone oxytocin, which is good for us in so many ways. It reduces stress and lowers blood pressure. And, of course, it also helps us to feel connected to the other person.

In a long-term relationship, it’s easy to forget about date nights. You’re probably too busy or tired to go out, or maybe money is an issue. Having fun isn’t a priority.

But it should be. Regular date nights should be nonnegotiable. In fact, the Gottmans say it’s something they would prescribe if they could: “Do something fun with your partner!”