Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It summary

Everyone makes mistakes – it's part of being human. What separates the successful from the unsuccessful is what they do next. Do they wallow in self-pity? Or do they forgive themselves, learn from their mistakes, and move on? The latter is a far more productive approach.

A big part of loving yourself is accepting yourself for who you are. You can move on by learning to forgive yourself for your mistakes. So stop comparing yourself to others, and start appreciating your unique talents and qualities. Stop berating yourself for perceived failures, and start praising yourself for your accomplishments. When you let go of the guilt and shame that comes with your mistakes, you open yourselves up to happiness. If you’re in this downward spiral, it's time to forgive – and free yourself from the past.

When someone says they’re making a vow, they’re not messing around. They’re willing to put their money where their mouth is and see whatever it is they’ve promised through to the end. You see, making a vow is like branding your soul – it’s a powerful statement that shows you’re serious about taking ownership of your journey and making positive changes. Whether it’s working out three times a week or never smoking again, each commitment can improve your life. And when you keep those commitments, your self-confidence soars.

Once you’ve forgiven yourself and are ready to take a step toward change, make a vow to love yourself. Then make it again and again. Take a pen and paper, and write down this solemn oath to love yourself unconditionally. Read your pledge aloud several times, and let the words sink in.

You don’t think about tying your shoelaces or brushing your teeth. You just do it. That’s the power of rituals: they create habits. Over time, those habits become part of who you are – of your identity. 

No matter how much we might wish it weren’t the case, our old patterns have a powerful hold on us. They’re like Velcro, clinging to us even when we try to tear them off. The good news is that with a little focus and effort, we can replace bad habits with new, healthier rituals.

The eyes, as the old saying goes, are the window to the soul. Do you see a beautiful and powerful person, or one who is flawed and undeserving? Everybody has days when they don’t feel good about themselves. It can be tough to see yourself objectively. But it only takes a few minutes in front of the mirror to help you see things differently. 

It sounds strange, but it’s tried and true tactic. So go stand in front of a mirror, and look directly into your eyes. Notice your own beauty and power.