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John Kim

Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First

4.3 (66 ratings)
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Single On Purpose by John Kim is a guidebook for embracing the single life with purpose and joy. It offers practical tips and insights for finding happiness and fulfillment as a single person.

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    Imagine you’re sailing solo on the vast ocean of life. You might be feeling a bit lost and alone. Maybe you’re also feeling kind of distant from yourself, like you’ve drifted away from your personal North Star. In this scenario, it’s easy to start thinking you need to find someone to complete you, now

    Loneliness is often seen as a monster under the bed – a source of embarrassment or a personal failure. But what if we flipped the script? What if we saw loneliness as just another chapter in the book of life, a chance to get to know ourselves better? Maybe accepting ourselves, warts and all, could be the secret map to navigating this chapter. 

    Feeling alone isn’t a sign of being broken. It’s a nudge – a reminder that we need to check in with ourselves. It’s like that warning light on your car dashboard saying “Hey, maybe you should take better care of yourself.” It’s a chance to focus on those parts of ourselves we might’ve been neglecting. And the beautiful thing? The more we accept and love ourselves, the less those feelings of loneliness will grip us. 

    Society often paints love and relationships as the be all and end all, but it’s just not that black and white. Fulfillment and joy don’t only come gift-wrapped in the form of a relationship. So, why wait for a partner to enjoy life? Be present, and soak up life’s beauty here and now. Because, let’s be real – even when you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t automatically guarantee happiness or ward off loneliness. In fact, the best relationships are made up of two people who have already found joy and purpose in their own lives.

    So, how do you do that? Well, start by really connecting with yourself – physically, emotionally, spiritually. Find activities that light you up and make you feel alive, whether that’s hiking, painting, playing an instrument, or just sitting in a park watching the world go by. These pursuits enhance your sense of self-worth and identity beyond romantic relationships. They can also strengthen your existing relationships by building resilience and longevity.

    Here’s another tip: invest time in physical activities. Doing so will help you foster a positive relationship with your body and your own sexuality, leading to greater self-confidence and self-worth. 

    Last, start dating yourself! No, seriously – schedule regular “self-dates.” Do things that feed your physical, emotional, and spiritual fitness. These self-dates could become a habit that brings positive changes to your life, regardless of your relationship status. By learning to truly enjoy your own company, you’ll cultivate a profound sense of self-love, acceptance, and inner peace. 

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    What is Single On Purpose about?

    Single on Purpose (2020) is a candid exploration of love, closure, and the human quest for genuine happiness. Get ready to renew your relationship with yourself, redefine your perspectives on love, and ignite the engines of self-confidence and joy within you.

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    Single On Purpose (2021) by John Kim is a thought-provoking book that challenges conventional beliefs about being single and offers a new perspective on finding fulfillment. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • With honest and relatable stories, it explores the benefits of being single and encourages readers to embrace their independence.
    • Kim's book provides practical advice on self-discovery, personal growth, and building healthy relationships, making it valuable for anyone seeking happiness and connection.
    • Through its witty and insightful writing, the book breaks the monotony of traditional self-help books, keeping readers engaged and inspired throughout.

    Who should read Single On Purpose?

    • Anyone going through a breakup
    • Personal growth explorers 
    • Life coaches or self-coaches seeking a better way to frame relationships

    About the Author

    John Kim, known as “The Angry Therapist,” is a pioneering figure in the world of self-help and therapy. As a licensed therapist, life coach, and writer, he offers refreshing and relatable advice. Kim also cofounded the online therapy platform JRNI, opening the door for more accessible therapy and coaching.

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    Single On Purpose encourages embracing singlehood and finding fulfillment without a romantic partner.

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    Single On Purpose is worth reading for its empowering perspective on singlehood and finding happiness independently.

    Who is the author of Single On Purpose?

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