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Name: The Four Agreements
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Author: Don Miguel Ruiz and Janet Mills

Don Miguel Ruiz and Janet Mills

A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom. A Toltec Wisdom Book

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What’s in it for me? See how ancient Mesoamerican wisdom can help you today.

The Toltec were an ancient society of artists and scientists who explored and saved spiritual knowledge from ancestors who’d lived in central Mexico before the Aztec became the dominant group. They had a deep tradition of education and passing on knowledge from generation to generation.

Like most ancient civilizations, they had a system of beliefs about the workings of the world and the humans who populated it. But what can these teachings tell us today?

That’s exactly what we’re going to explore. You’ll discover how Toltec ideas and concepts can help us to become who we really are and cast aside the chains that keep us from realizing our full potential, enjoying a life of freedom and making peace with ourselves.

In these blinks, you’ll find out

why you should rebel against the collective dream of society;
what’s wrong with taking both critique and praise personally; and
why most assumptions about yourself and others are wrong.

We’re taught strict rules as children, which we force ourselves to abide by as adults.

Nobody gets to choose their native tongue, but the language we grow up speaking isn’t the only thing society imposes upon us. Social norms even prescribe the content and form of our dreams.

For instance, everyone has individual dreams, but there’s also a collective dream. This is the dream of the planet. The rules that define this collective dream are taught to us by parents, schools, religions and other influential forces. It’s through this education that we learn what proper behavior is, what we should believe and the difference between good and bad.

However, these rules and agreements weren’t chosen by any of us. Our acceptance of such rules without question amounts to our domestication.

If we rebelled as children, adults were still more powerful than us. They could suppress our dissent and punish us if we disobeyed them. Not just that, but we were also rewarded for obeying their beliefs and following their rules. As a result, the vast majority of us surrendered.

Just consider how many parents tell their children that they’re “good” when they follow the rules and “bad” when they don’t. In this system, the primary reward for proper behavior is attention from parents, teachers and friends.

Naturally, getting such a reward feels great, and we learn to abide by these rules to reap this benefit. We fear rejection and often pretend to be something that we’re not.

As a result, at a certain point, it’s not necessary for anyone to control us because all of these beliefs are lodged deep within us. In other words, we domesticate ourselves. We devise a perfect self-image and, when we fail to act in accordance with it, punish, judge and blame ourselves.

But there’s a different way. We can break free from this structure by establishing new agreements for ourselves, which we’ll learn all about in the following blinks.

The first agreement is to be impeccable with your word and never use it against yourself or others.

Did you know that the word “impeccable” stems from Latin, meaning “without sin”? In that sense, being impeccable with your language means never using it against yourself, as any harm done to yourself is considered sinful.

Such harm might come in the form of self-judgment or blame. You might think that you’re too fat or too stupid. Simply by harboring these thoughts, you’re using your words against yourself and passing judgement. Instead of doing this, you could insist on reaffirming how great you are and how much you love yourself.

You won’t need to take things personally if you have a strong sense of yourself.

Can you remember the last time somebody was rude to you and you took it personally? It likely wasn’t too long ago and that’s a problem.

After all, as soon as something is construed as personal, you begin inadvertently agreeing with it and taking it upon yourself, even if it has nothing to do with you. Beyond that, by taking things personally, people get trapped in what’s called personal importance, a state in which they believe that everything is about them.

Instead of making assumptions, ask questions.

Have you ever assumed something was seriously wrong with one of your relationships simply because the other person failed to say “hi” one time? Well, similar things happen to everyone and this is just one example of how assumptions create problems.

After all, when you make assumptions, you think that your thoughts must be true and feel duped when they turn out not to be. This is a major issue as most assumptions have just about no basis in reality. They only appear real in the imagination.

Always do your best even if it constantly changes.

Do you remember your parents and teachers telling you to just do your best when you were a kid? Well, it’s pretty sound advice and you should always do your best, whatever it might mean in a given context.

That’s because doing your best always depends on the situation you’re in, and as long as you give it all you’ve got, you won’t need to blame or judge yourself. Doing your best changes from day to day. On certain days, your best will be totally stellar, while on others it might not be so great.

Break with your old agreements and find your freedom.

Now that you have a sense of how your old agreements cause you suffering, here are three ways to break with them and free yourself.

The first relates to the dream you’re living right now, which is called the dream of the first attention, since people used your earliest childhood attention to forge it. But you’re not a child anymore and today you can start changing your dream and believing whatever you want.

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The Four Agreements (1997) is your guide to breaking free from negative patterns and fully realizing your true self. It was a New York Times best seller for over eight years. These blinks explain how society raises people to conform to a strict set of rules and how, with a little effort and commitment, you can set your own guidelines for life.

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We dont need to dream a nightmare. It is possible to enjoy a pleasant dream.

—Don Miguel Ruiz and Janet Mills

Wer The Four Agreements lesen sollte

People who feel trapped in their own lives
Parents who want to raise their children to feel free
Anybody who feels like they’re living a lie

Über den Autor

Don Miguel Ruiz was expected to follow in his family’s footsteps, carrying on ancient Toltec wisdom as a spiritual teacher. Instead, he became a surgeon. It was only after a near-death experience that he rediscovered the traditional wisdom of his people and devoted himself to becoming a spiritual master, or nagual.

Janet Mills is the founder and president of Amber-Allen Publishing and the co-author of the Toltec Wisdom series.

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