How to “Unfuck Yourself” – A Brief Guide
In 2017, Gary John Bishop released a bestselling self-help book titled Unfuck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life. In this book, he provides blunt and practical steps to overcome negativity, self-doubt, and other mental obstacles that could hinder one’s progress.
About the Author
Gary John Bishop is a personal development expert, public speaker, and author from Glasgow, Scotland. He was born into abject poverty, from which he rewrote the cause of his life to become influential and successful. He has written several books including “Do the Work,” “Wise as Fuck: A Simple Truth to Guide You Through Life,” “Stop Doing That Shit,” among many others.
Unfuck Yourself – The Book
Ever since its release, the book Unfuck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life has been translated into 20 languages, and sold over 2 million copies all over the world. For more than two years, the book remained on the New York Times Bestseller list, and to date, it continues to receive accolades globally. Many have extolled the book for its motivational tone and practical approach, while others have given it a thumbs down for being simplistic and using profane language.
– The New York Times
5 Ways to Unfuck Yourself
Unfuck Yourself provides a practical guide on how to overcome the destructive and self-loathing thoughts and inaction that have been limiting you. It equips you to take control of your life like never before and stir it in the direction that you need it to go.
As the author said, You have the life you’re willing to put up with. This means that when you’re tired of living the way you do, you will start to take some drastic steps toward changing things. In this book, Gary highlights three major mental shifts everyone must make if they must make before they can set out to actualize their true potential.
Positive Self Talk: The human mind is in a constant state of internal conversation. The words you say to yourself have the potential to promote or slow down your willingness to act, and thus influence the direction of your life. You must speak positivity to yourself, and let it guide your heart.
Take Responsibility for your life and stop blaming others. Even when you’re unable to control what happens in your life, you’re totally in control of what you do in the aftermath of the event.
The world doesn’t pause to wait for you, so you must do what you have to do despite the problems life throws at you.
Summarily, this book teaches 5 lessons that can help you set your life on the right track if you follow them religiously. They include:
1. To Change your Emotional State, You Have to Create Your Own Reality
Many motivational speakers have said this —or at least something similar— so many times that it now sounds like a broken record. But, Gary John brings a fresh perspective to it. He explains that every time you tell yourself that you can’t do something, or you don’t have what it takes to achieve a feat, you’re closing your mind to the possibility of making an effort.
When you find your mind making these dismissive, self-limiting thoughts, it’s best to stop, change that pattern and say something like “Well, I can try!” When you say this, you open up your mind to the possibility, and start looking for ways to put in your best effort.
2. Stop Playing the Blame Game
It’s easy to absolve yourself of responsibilities and blame others when things go wrong. The author explains that this is an act of self-sabotage because by refusing to take responsibility for your folly, you’re denying yourself the opportunity to learn from your mistakes and become better.
3. Instead of Living in Lust and Envy, Develop a Drive to Change Your Life for the Better
Humans are emotional beings, and no matter how much you try to be rational, feelings of lust, hate, and envy could overwhelm you, especially when you see people doing better than you. Instead of letting envy linger in your heart, find out what you can learn from the people and use them to better your life.
4. Life Doesn’t Wait for You; Do What You Have to Do
The world never pauses to wait for you, even if you’re sad, depressed, broke, or laying in the hospital with both your legs bandaged and hung 90 degrees to your waist.
Life always goes on, and if you don’t move with it and achieve what you have to, you may get left behind. So, no matter what you’re going through, always make a daily consistent effort towards actualizing your goals.
5. Follow the Two-fold Steps to Freedom
In the end, the author highlights two steps that lead to freedom. Firstly, you have to stop the unproductive things you’re doing now, such as spending endless time on social media, lazing around, and playing video games.
Secondly, instead of wasting your time with these lazy behaviors that are slowing you down, you must refocus your energy on doing things that take you closer to reaching your dreams. Make every day count, and in the future, you’ll be grateful that you did.
– Debby Tomlinson (@Tomlinsonsd)
Conclusion on How to Unfuck Yourself
In conclusion, you can unfuck your life by starting to take full responsibility for whatever happens to you and how you deal with them. You have to desist from making excuses, procrastinating, and wasting your time on unproductive ventures. Instead, you must ensure that everything you do aligns with the greater goal of becoming a better version of who you were yesterday.
- 19 min reading time
- audio version available