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Name: The Drama of the Gifted Child
Rating: 4.2 (126 reviews)
Author: Alice Miller

Alice Miller

The Search for the True Self

4.2 (126 Bewertungen)

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What’s in it for me? Overcome the drama of your childhood and find your true self.

Have you ever experienced that weird chemistry that can arise when you meet your parents or siblings for a holiday get-together? When old conflicts and feelings from your childhood seem to resurface and create tension? You might think that your childhood is a thing of the past. Wrong.

Whatever their relationship to their parents and siblings, many adults carry unresolved – and painful – memories from their childhood. If left undealt with, these memories can have far worse consequences than heated arguments over Christmas dinner. Not only can childhood trauma lead to emotional problems and addiction, it can also prevent people from becoming who they truly are.

Still, many of us overlook the bearing of our childhoods on our adult life. So how do we deal with it?

In these blinks you’ll learn

why people deny the importance of their childhood;
what the consequences of being abandoned as a child are; and
why parental pressure is so dangerous.

Many adults are unknowingly burdened by suppressed childhood memories and emotions.

Have you ever felt like you were missing something, even though life was going well? We all feel this way sometimes. Why is that?

As adults, we often lose touch with our own emotions. That’s part of why so many therapy patients say they can’t feel anything, whether it’s shame, jealousy, happiness, sorrow or joy. Life is empty without emotion; emotion is what makes life worth living.

Sadly, these therapy patients struggle to feel anything real. They’ve lost their ability to connect with themselves – a problem often rooted in their childhoods.

A lot of people have rose-tinted memories of being a kid. They’re nostalgic for those easier days when their parents took care of them and all they had to do was play.

But childhood isn’t just fun and games – it’s also the time when most of us learn to suppress our emotions. As children grow up, they learn they have to quell their emotions so their parent will love and accept them.

Consider a child with an over-controlling father, for example. From an early age, that child would learn to obey their parent rather than following their own wishes. And if they were beaten, they’d learn to suppress their tears and pain so as not to provoke their father even further.

A child with an overbearing mother might have problems with their sexual development. Alice Miller, the author, knew of a case of one unhealthily attached mother who went so far as to massage her son’s genitals when he was almost in puberty. It had a terrible impact on his sexuality.

Children with parents like these often lose touch with their feelings as they get older. Repressing your emotions and memories can have serious, long-term consequences.

Repressed childhood emotions can resurface in adulthood in the form of destructive behavior.

Sexual fetishism, womanizing and drug use are often viewed as lifestyle choices, but the mental reality behind them is usually much darker. Rather than being free, the people who engage in these activities are actually caged in the mental prison of their childhoods.

Repressed emotions can resurface in adulthood in a number of ways. Unlike children, adults try to keep their emotions in check to live a socially acceptable life. However, if they actively avoid dealing with dark childhood memories, their emotions get expressed in other ways.

Many gifted children have high expectations of themselves and grow up to suffer from depression.

We’ve all heard of great composers, writers or artists who were unbelievably creative but suffered from depression throughout their lives. How could people who are so successful be so unhappy?

Brilliant people often have feelings of grandiosity. Their sense of their own importance and value is what propels them to create. However, grandiosity is the first sign of a repressed childhood – and it’s usually coupled with depression.

Unaddressed childhood trauma can be passed down through generations.

Adults who are emotionally trapped in their childhoods subconsciously want their children to have the idealistic childhoods they never had, because their own parents didn’t give them the chance. In their quest to be the perfect parents, they put stress on their children in new ways.

Parents usually want the best for their children, of course. They want them to be happier and have more fulfilling lives than they had themselves. And if a parent didn’t get enough love from their own parents, they’ll try to foster that love with their children.

People who succeed in becoming their true selves will change the world for the better.

We’ve looked at the negative aspects and consequences of repressed emotions, but what happens when a person finally overcomes them? The good news is that it’s possible to get past your dark memories. An adult can undergo miraculous changes when they confront the unhappy emotions of their past.

People who effectively confront their repressed emotions are finally able to live life to the fullest. They’re not bogged down by their own contempt, hatred or self-destructive behavior. Instead, they come to accept their own emotions for the first time. They allow themselves to love, hate, cry or laugh – instead of ignoring those feelings and trying to live without them.

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Worum geht es in The Drama of the Gifted Child?

International bestseller and classic The Drama of the Gifted Child (1979) is about the ways in which our unhappy, repressed childhood memories come back to haunt us as adults. Everyone deals with negativity in their childhood, and if adults don’t confront these memories, they risk living unfulfilled lives or even passing their problems on to their children. Overcoming these suppressed emotions will set you free.

Wer The Drama of the Gifted Child lesen sollte

Anyone who’s ever felt “empty”
People struggling with depression or addiction
Parents and parents-to-be

Über den Autor

Psychologist and psychoanalyst Alice Miller was the author of a number of highly acclaimed books such as The Truth Will Set You Free, Banished Knowledge, For Your Own Good, Thou Shalt Not Be Anymore and Breaking Down the Wall of Silence.

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