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Alice Miller

The Search for the True Self

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'The Drama of the Gifted Child' by Alice Miller is a psychological book that explores the impact of childhood trauma on adult behavior. It encourages readers to confront and heal from painful experiences to find true happiness.

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    Many adults are unknowingly burdened by suppressed childhood memories and emotions.

    Have you ever felt like you were missing something, even though life was going well? We all feel this way sometimes. Why is that?

    As adults, we often lose touch with our own emotions. That’s part of why so many therapy patients say they can’t feel anything, whether it’s shame, jealousy, happiness, sorrow or joy. Life is empty without emotion; emotion is what makes life worth living.

    Sadly, these therapy patients struggle to feel anything real. They’ve lost their ability to connect with themselves – a problem often rooted in their childhoods.

    A lot of people have rose-tinted memories of being a kid. They’re nostalgic for those easier days when their parents took care of them and all they had to do was play.

    But childhood isn’t just fun and games – it’s also the time when most of us learn to suppress our emotions. As children grow up, they learn they have to quell their emotions so their parent will love and accept them.

    Consider a child with an over-controlling father, for example. From an early age, that child would learn to obey their parent rather than following their own wishes. And if they were beaten, they’d learn to suppress their tears and pain so as not to provoke their father even further.

    A child with an overbearing mother might have problems with their sexual development. Alice Miller, the author, knew of a case of one unhealthily attached mother who went so far as to massage her son’s genitals when he was almost in puberty. It had a terrible impact on his sexuality.

    Children with parents like these often lose touch with their feelings as they get older. Repressing your emotions and memories can have serious, long-term consequences.

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    What is The Drama of the Gifted Child about?

    International bestseller and classic The Drama of the Gifted Child (1979) is about the ways in which our unhappy, repressed childhood memories come back to haunt us as adults. Everyone deals with negativity in their childhood, and if adults don’t confront these memories, they risk living unfulfilled lives or even passing their problems on to their children. Overcoming these suppressed emotions will set you free.

    The Drama of the Gifted Child Review

    The Drama of the Gifted Child (1979) explores the complex dynamics of childhood and the impact it has on our adult lives. Here are three reasons why this book is worth reading:

    • It offers a profound understanding of the long-lasting effects of childhood trauma and how it shapes our emotional well-being.
    • Through powerful case studies and personal anecdotes, it uncovers the hidden struggles within seemingly high-functioning individuals, providing valuable insights.
    • With its insightful analysis of the interplay between parent and child, the book sheds light on the importance of emotional empathy, nurturing, and self-discovery.

    Who should read The Drama of the Gifted Child?

    • Anyone who’s ever felt “empty”
    • People struggling with depression or addiction
    • Parents and parents-to-be

    About the Author

    Psychologist and psychoanalyst Alice Miller was the author of a number of highly acclaimed books such as The Truth Will Set You Free, Banished Knowledge, For Your Own Good, Thou Shalt Not Be Anymore and Breaking Down the Wall of Silence.

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    The main message of The Drama of the Gifted Child is understanding and healing the childhood wounds that shape us.

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    The Drama of the Gifted Child is worth reading because it sheds light on the complexities of our past and offers insights for growth, in a concise manner.

    Who is the author of The Drama of the Gifted Child?

    The author of The Drama of the Gifted Child is Alice Miller.

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