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Name: Living Beyond “What If?”
Rating: 4.3 (518 reviews)
Author: Shirley Davis

Shirley Davis

Release the Limits and Realize Your Dreams

4.3 (518 Bewertungen)

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Living Beyond "What If?" by Shirley Davis is a self-help book that teaches readers how to overcome fear, doubt and confusion. It provides practical tips and tools to build confidence and resilience in challenging situations, empowering readers to thrive in their personal and professional lives.

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What’s in it for me? An inspiring journey toward realizing your dreams.

At Dr. Shirley Davis’s public speaking events, 90 percent of the audience agrees that they would live their lives differently if they could do it again. They’d live purposefully – with more passion and less procrastination.

Given that every one of us plans, dreams, and imagines the future, why is this the case? Why do only some of us achieve our goals? What holds the rest of us back, and what attitudes could we adopt to facilitate different outcomes?

These blinks provide the answer. They offer strategies to release any mindsets that may be protecting you from disappointments – like failed relationships or career setbacks – but are ultimately holding you back. And they show that adopting a different attitude can change the course of your life.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

how two near-death experiences as a young woman changed Davis’s life;
that humans are born with only two innate fears; and
why Davis’s business success depends on an annual trip to the Caribbean.

Being able to imagine your future is one of the first steps to making it happen.

The human imagination is an amazing thing. Active and unrestrained in children, it stays with us throughout our lives. And although we use it in less obvious ways as we get older, imagining a different future remains one of the most important first steps in making any big life change.

But imagination is one thing. Dealing with reality is quite another.

For the author, Shirley Davis, imagination took a bit of a knock when several big setbacks came along to steamroll the dreams she’d had as a young girl. These challenges showed her that everything wasn’t going to work out for the best just because she wanted it to.

In order to get back on track, Davis would have to undertake a journey of self-development and learn how to dream again.

The key message here is: Being able to imagine your future is one of the first steps to making it happen.

The first setback in Davis’s life came a few years after college. She and some friends were visiting the University of Oklahoma as prospective graduate students. Driving home to Maryland, the women got into a near-fatal car crash. Davis was unconscious for days – but miraculously had no internal injuries. The police who’d responded to the accident were amazed she’d survived.

As she recovered on her parents’ couch, she realized she couldn’t take anything for granted. She decided to get married and start a life with the man she loved – despite their parents’ warnings that they were too young. Five years later, a second setback occurred. Love and faith weren’t enough to keep the young couple’s marriage afloat after all; they decided to divorce.

But, just as they were parting ways, a third big event arose: Davis discovered she was pregnant. She decided they would be better off raising the child apart. As she pawned her possessions and started taking out high-interest loans, she realized that this wasn’t where she had imagined herself: in debt, divorced, and about to have a baby.

Then came her fourth intense life event. Davis was working as a bank supervisor when the bank was robbed at gunpoint. A man held a gun to her head and threatened to pull the trigger. It sparked a series of difficult reflections: What if she were meant to be doing something else with her life? What had happened to the dreams she’d imagined so many years before?

After bouncing back from bad experiences, Davis learned how to jump – and never look back.

Taking a risk can be hugely rewarding. But knowing which risks to take is the real skill. For Davis, it was a stint in HR that provided the opportunity she’d been looking for to rethink her life’s path. It just took a moment for her to see it.

She’d been offered an amazing promotion to a different department. But at first, she flat out didn’t want anything to do with it. She was comfortable with her 40-hours-per-week lifestyle, and she didn’t think she needed to learn new skills. She especially didn’t want to work weekends.

Overcome procrastination by finding new ways to think about your goals.

Why is it that so many of us fail to realize our dreams? Well, it often boils down to one word: procrastination. In other words, we tend to put off doing things we know we should do, whether it’s taking out the trash or going to the doctor.

The best-selling author James Clear believes that a phenomenon called time inconsistency helps explain why we procrastinate. Time inconsistency refers to the human tendency to value immediate rewards over future rewards.

Stare down your fears by working through them, acting on them, and staying focused.

As humans, we’ve all felt fear at various points throughout our lives. But did you know that a lot of that fear is learned behavior? In reality, we’re born with only two fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Everything else is either taught or acquired.

Sometimes fear is based in reality. But other times it’s just a figment of the imagination. One thing is for certain: it’s impossible to live your dreams when you’re living in fear.

To achieve your goals, make a plan and find your purpose.

Once you’ve faced your fears, it’s time to continue making your dreams come true. After Davis conquered her own fears, she reestablished her life plan by fostering the right relationships – starting with herself – and building the courage to take risks.

She also created a new yearly ritual: after the Christmas festivities, she uses her annual bonus to go on a Caribbean vacation – just for her.

Once you’ve invested in your relationships, it’s time to take a leap of faith.

Humans are social creatures: we need good relationships to be successful. But if you don’t take care of yourself, you’ll find it hard to do the same for others. To be and do your best, you must build your self-confidence. Realizing your dreams becomes an act of self-love.

To determine if you’re in a good relationship with yourself, consider these questions: Are you true to yourself? Do you accept your flaws and mistakes, and choose not to dwell on them? Are you kind to yourself and others? Do you take care of your mental and physical health? Do you manage your finances responsibly? And, finally, are you grateful for what you have?

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Worum geht es in Living Beyond “What If?”?

Living Beyond “What If?” (2021) is an empathetic handbook to realizing your dreams. It shares intimate, affecting anecdotes and sets out a step-by-step guide to overcoming your fears and achieving success.

Wer Living Beyond “What If?” lesen sollte

People struggling to get over a particular fear or blockage
Those who want to reinvent themselves but don’t know how
Anyone looking to level-up their life

Über den Autor

Dr. Shirley Davis is the president and CEO of SDS Global Enterprises, a strategic development solutions firm specializing in HR. She’s worked at several Fortune 100 and Fortune 50 companies in senior leadership and executive roles. She is also the best-selling author of The Seat and Reinvent Yourself.

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