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Eli Harwood

Use Connection-Focused Parenting to Build Confidence and Empathy

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17 mins

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Raising Securely Attached Kids guides parents in cultivating emotionally resilient children through secure attachment. It offers practical strategies to develop a nurturing relationship that supports a child's emotional growth and mental well-being.

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    What happens when a child is startled by something unfamiliar, like a loud noise or a stranger’s face? Instinctively, they look to their caregiver for reassurance. In this moment, the way you respond – whether by comforting or dismissing their distress – teaches them a critical lesson about trust and security. These everyday interactions form the basis of secure attachment, the foundation for a child’s emotional and psychological development.

    From the very beginning, children are learning whether they can rely on their caregivers to meet their emotional and physical needs. The most valuable lesson they can learn is, “You are safe with me.” This sense of safety allows them to explore the world confidently, knowing they can always return to a supportive base when things get overwhelming. It’s not about always saying yes, but about being consistently present, offering comfort when needed, and approaching their mistakes and successes with empathy.

    Research shows that children with secure attachment are more independent, resilient, and emotionally stable as they grow. When children feel that their emotional needs are met, they develop the internal confidence needed to handle life’s challenges. On the other hand, children with insecure attachment may withdraw, become overly clingy, or struggle to regulate their emotions. However, it’s possible to shift from insecure to secure attachment over time, through consistent, mindful care.

    To foster secure attachment, focus on being a source of emotional stability. When your child is upset or afraid, respond calmly and compassionately. Let them know that their feelings are valid and that you’re there to help them navigate those emotions. Over time, this creates a lasting bond that provides your child with the confidence to face the world’s uncertainties, knowing they have a safe place to return to.

    Next, we’ll discuss how the quality of your connection with your child becomes the most powerful tool in guiding their behavior and shaping their emotional well-being.

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    What is Raising Securely Attached Kids about?

    Raising Securely Attached Kids (2024) is a parenting guide that teaches strategies to foster secure, trusting relationships with children through connection-focused methods. It provides actionable advice to help parents overcome their own past traumas, build emotional resilience in their kids, and create lasting bonds based on empathy and trust.

    Who should read Raising Securely Attached Kids?

    • Parents seeking to strengthen emotional bonds with their children
    • Caregivers addressing childhood attachment issues or trauma
    • Adults healing from their own insecure childhood attachments

    About the Author

    Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist and an expert in attachment theory, specializing in helping parents cultivate emotionally secure connections with their children. She is the creator of Attachment Nerd, a popular online platform offering resources, workshops, and community support for parents focused on building healthy attachment relationships. Through her extensive experience, Harwood has become a trusted voice in parenting and emotional development.

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