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Name: Professional Troublemaker
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Author: Luvvie Ajayi Jones

Luvvie Ajayi Jones

The Fear-Fighter Manual

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What’s in it for me? Overthrow the tyranny of your fears.

We all feel fear at times. This fear stops us from fighting for ourselves. It may even force us to hide our true opinions. And since we never know when to expect it, what matters most is how we relate to it.

For too many of us, fear is a dead end. We freeze up and quickly do what’s necessary to maintain the status quo – but all that stops now!

Professional troublemakers embrace confrontation as an aspect of kindness. Instead of hiding, they rely on the strength of their own identity. And instead of shrinking to please others, they’re grounded in their true selves.

These blinks invite you to imagine your own life if lived in spite of fear.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

what Game of Thrones and a West African custom have in common;
why kindness beats niceness hands-down; and
when “too much” can actually be just right.

Knowing the real you makes it easier to be the real you.

We all live with a certain amount of fear. Not just about the future of the world, looming deadlines, and diminishing finances – but we also stress about ourselves.

We worry we’re not good enough, or that we’re somehow defective. As a result, we hold back and hide our true selves. This fear of exposure is understandable, though. Society can be extremely harsh. In such an unforgiving world, being ourselves can feel pretty risky.

But that’s only one perspective. What if this concealed self we’ve been minimizing was an asset? What if getting in touch with our real selves actually protected us?

The key message here is: Knowing the real you makes it easier to be the real you.

Although we may fear showing the world our true selves, that authentic identity can be a profoundly grounding and stabilizing force.

You see, one of the main reasons people are afraid to disrupt the status quo is because we fear instability – we worry that taking risks will eventually knock us off our proverbial perches for good.

In reality, a strong sense of self would actually make you feel stronger and more resilient against risk.

Instead of feeling like you’re standing precariously on the edge of a cliff, you’d feel grounded in an everlasting and secure foundation – something that can never be toppled. You’re grounded in yourself.

Now, this doesn't give you carte blanche to be stubborn or dogmatic. It also doesn't mean you can't change, learn or grow. It just means that you need to develop a strong sense of identity and assert your right to exist as you are.

To help, let’s take inspiration from the Yorùbá people of West Africa and their tradition of oríkì. An oríkì is a poem of personal praise. Everyone’s oríkì is unique and highlights their identity within the community. Think of it like the introductions given in Game of Thrones: “Daenerys Stormborn of the House Targaryen. First of Her Name. The Unburnt. Queen of the Andals and the First Men. Khaleesi of the Great Grass Sea. Breaker of Chains. Mother of Dragons.”

Try writing your own “personal hype” mantra. Abandon all humility and take the credit you deserve. Make it sound as badass as possible. Something like, “Alex Louise of the House Carter. First of Her Name. Dame of Detroit. Purveyor of Plants. Mother of Masterminds.”

And remember to keep your oríkì somewhere safe and easy to reference. It’ll affirm your sense of identity at times when you need it most.

When it comes to your personality, “too much” is just right.

So, you’ve developed a strong sense of your unique identity. You’ve even written your Game of Thrones–style oríkì to ground yourself. But you’re still feeling reserved – like you can’t be yourself, right? In fact, you still feel odd. Like, what if you’re just “too much”?

It’s a common enough complaint. People tell you you’re too something – too loud, too bossy, too sensitive. It’s an accusation of excess that isn’t just observational. People are actually asking you to change. And unfortunately, you probably do despite any negative impact on yourself.

Be honest – even when you feel uneasy.

Here’s a fact for you: According to a University of Massachusetts study, the average person lies at least once in a single ten-minute conversation.

Why? Well, it’s not because we’re all compulsive liars. It’s because dishonesty often leads to harmony. We simply don’t want to rock the boat, and we don’t want to get into trouble.

Don’t bear the entire workload yourself.

Does losing control scare you? Perhaps you imagine the worst when things are out of your hands. Of course your colleague will mess up that important presentation. There’s no doubt that your spouse will forget to pick up the dry cleaning again. It probably seems that you’d be better off taking care of everything yourself.

But the problem is that the world doesn’t work like that. Nobody can be entirely self-reliant – especially not if they want to sleep, relax, and enjoy life from time to time.

Aim to be kind, not nice.

If you’re like most people, you probably don't like to ruffle people’s feathers. After all, when you annoy someone, you run the risk of being ostracized – and who likes being left out? So, you probably try to stay on other people’s good sides as long as possible by being nice.

For the most part, trying to be nice could be considered harmless – even beneficial. At least it makes your social interactions flow smoothly. But, in reality, being nice gets in your way. It pulls your focus to what others want and stifles your own voice. You willingly turn a blind eye to poor treatment, like being disrespected or neglected. And rather than potentially upsetting anyone, you let serious problems fester for far too long.

Everybody needs a gang of friends.

Did you know that the worst punishment in prison is solitary confinement? There’s a reason for that; spending extended periods alone goes against our basic need for human interaction. We’re company-keepers by nature, so isolation hurts.

All the same, many of us actually pride ourselves on being self-proclaimed “lone wolves.” The idea of tackling life’s adventures on our own appeals to our sense of independence – and our vanity.

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Professional Troublemaker (2021) is a guide to overcoming the fear that stops us from being our best selves and living our truest values. From friendships to honesty and responsibility to kindness, the author explores the touchstones of a meaningful life – boldly urging us to speak up for what we really deserve.

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Even a whisper of truth makes a difference in an echo chamber of lies.

—Luvvie Ajayi Jones

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Scaredy-cats who need to learn to live with gumption
Nice people not getting results by just being nice
Control freaks who need to learn to take a break

Über den Autor

Luvvie Ajayi Jones is an award-winning writer, podcast host, and public speaker, whose work combines comedy, self-help, and social justice. She’s also the author of I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual.

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