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Name: Master Your Emotions
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Author: Thibaut Meurisse

Thibaut Meurisse

A Practical Guide to Overcome Negativity and Better Manage Your Feelings

4.3 (261 Bewertungen)

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What’s in it for me? Live a better life by mastering your emotions.

In many ways, the quality of your life depends on your emotions. Your emotions can create a state of ecstasy or peace. On the other hand, if you fail to control negative feelings like shame and fear, they can completely ruin your day.

That doesn’t mean you should try and do away with all negative thoughts and feelings though, quite the opposite. They’re hardwired into us for a reason. Because of the difficult and dangerous world we evolved in, our brains were programmed to feel fear and anxiety to ensure our survival. They were literally a matter of life or death.

Take the fear of rejection, for example. It can cripple you, leading you to obsess over how you appear to others or push you to go along with unhealthy trends just because everyone else is. But in the distant past, being alienated from a community could have spelled doom, cutting the pariah off from help with gathering food and fending off predators. The world is much safer now, but the fear of rejection isn’t going anywhere. So instead, you need to learn to live alongside it.

In this Blink, we’ll take a quick look at how to understand emotions, where they come from, and how you can begin to manage them – and even master them – to avoid destructive patterns.

Meet your ego. Then break free of it.

If you accidentally cut yourself while chopping vegetables, your finger sends an instant, panicky message to your brain: Stop that! This lets you use sharp tools while also hanging on to all your digits.

Negative emotions work in a similar fashion. Like physical pain, they serve a purpose to tell us something is wrong. But they can also keep a powerful hold on us.

That grip is especially strong if your feelings reinforce your identity – the story you tell about yourself. To understand what is meant by this, meet your ego.

Ego is often used as shorthand for pride – like saying a star athlete has a huge ego. But it can also refer to how we see ourselves.

You see, Your identity isn’t a real thing, but something you’ve constructed. Everyone finds their identity in the things they own, their relationships, their gender, and their religious beliefs, and tell a story about who they are and why they matter. That creation is their ego.

Unfortunately for us and those around us, our egos are built by a self-centered narrative, and consequently, our egos are never satisfied. They push us to bolster our own self-worth by feeling superior to others – for example, “I’m important because I make $150,000 a year.” Then when someone threatens our self-image with insults or cuts us off in traffic as if we’re some kind of nobody, we can’t handle it.

Breaking free from your servitude to that self-narrative can make you happier and help avoid stewing with resentment.

The first and most powerful step is simply to realize what your ego is up to, and that it’s just a story you’re creating in your head. The more you wise up to its tricks, the less power it holds over you.

Step back from your emotions. They aren’t the essence of you.

“I’m so angry right now.”

You’ve probably said many versions of that phrase, depending on your mood. The language is telling. We all think of our emotions as part of our core being. We’re angry or happy or sad.

Your problems aren’t real.

Odds are you could sit down right now and write out a fairly long list of your problems – some more painful than others. You’re out of coffee. Your boss is a jerk. Your teenager is engaging in destructive behavior. You’re about to lose your home. You have a severe illness. The list goes on and on.

It’s important to realize, though, that none of these circumstances are painful in and of themselves. They simply exist – neutral facts about the world. The problem is your assumption about how things should be, which can cause real pain.

Write it out.

A sheet of blank paper and a pen may be the secret tool you’ve been looking for to deal with your emotions.

We’ve already talked about stepping back from your feelings so you can think about them more clearly and ease their intensity. Sounds great, but how can you do that?

Condition your mind.

If you look up and see a truck barreling at you, you'll get a jolt of fear. You can’t help that. It’s triggered by your need to survive. But you can shape other emotions with your own beliefs and thoughts.

The way you think is powerful in creating emotions that build on each other, positive or negative. So changing the way you think about the world can make a big difference in how you feel in your day-to-day life.

Mind your body.

Feelings aren’t just connected to words. Taking care of your emotions means taking care of your body, too.

One survey found that most people who reported anxiety and depression were also not getting enough sleep. Another study found that people who didn’t get enough sleep had a higher mortality risk.

Final Summary

There’s no magic pill to make all your emotions positive. Following the advice in this Blink won’t keep you from ever experiencing sadness or anger. And as we just discussed, that wouldn’t even be a good thing, since you need negative emotions to warn you when there’s a problem.

Still, you don’t have to live at the mercy of your emotions, and there are concrete steps to avoid wallowing in negativity. Remember: Your emotions are not you. Unhealthy expectations can create unnecessary negative emotions. And mentally stepping outside your emotions and analyzing them can give valuable perspective.

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Master Your Emotions (2018) offers tips on understanding your emotions and controlling them. Instead of letting your negative emotions control your life, this guide encourages you to build positive instead of negative emotions and take back control of your life.

Wer Master Your Emotions lesen sollte

People going through upsetting life situations such as the loss of a loved one
Those trying to cope with difficult coworkers or family members
Anyone who struggles with overwhelming emotions

Über den Autor

Thibaut Meurisse is a self-help author who launched his full-time writing career in 2017. To date, he has more than 20 books to his name. Master Your Emotions is part of his Mastery Series. Other titles include Master Your Motivations, Master Your Beliefs, and Master Your Learning. Meurisse also works as a coach and mentor.

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