Surprise summary

We live with uncertainty on a daily basis, but the world is also framed and structured, which causes a certain degree of predictability. So, what does this contradiction do to us?

The unreliability of our world can induce anxiety, which in turn creates a need for predictability.

As you know, not all surprises are pleasant. But did you know that you can improve the way you cope with unpleasant surprises?

Moreover, if you can become more resilient to negative surprises, your life can become far more enjoyable.

What does being vulnerable mean to you? Many people associate it with weakness – but in reality, we can benefit from being vulnerable.

Vulnerability means being open and surrendering some control. If you can do this, unpredictability  becomes easier to embrace.

When was the last time a loved one left you an affectionate note, or you got a free coffee from the café you stop into every morning on your way to work?

These delightfully unexpected moments can positively impact both your own life and the lives of others.

Healthy relationships have a positive effect on our well-being, and if you let more surprise into your relationships, they will often flourish as a result. So how can you do this?

Welcoming difference and complexity are key steps in allowing surprise to emerge. Being open to complexity means not staunchly defending your personal opinions on culture, politics, religion and so forth. Instead, embracing differences will encourage the element of surprise in your relationships.

Did you know that you needn’t wait for the world to surprise you? You’re perfectly capable of surprising yourself!

One way you can continually surprise yourself is by collecting novelty, that is, gathering experiences you’ve never had before. New experiences are by their very nature inherently unpredictable, so they’re packed with surprises.