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Name: Reclaiming Conversation
Rating: 4.1 (83 reviews)
Author: Sherry Turkle

Sherry Turkle

The Power of Talk in a Digital Age

4.1 (83 Bewertungen)

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What’s in it for me? Learn how to reclaim conversation!

Going out for dinner, calling your mom or going to a party used to be about talking to people, about conversation. But during the last ten years something has shifted. Instead of talking about the food, we post a picture of it online; instead of calling our mother, we send her an email updating her on our lives; and at the party we’re busy showing other people YouTube clips and messaging with friends at a bar instead of talking to other people there. In short, face-to-face conversation is nowhere to be found.

Is this necessarily a problem? The author argues that yes, it is, because conversation helps us evolve as humans. It trains us in empathy, it makes us more efficient and creative, and it forges real and deep social bonds. So let’s go on an exploration of the effects of the conversation we’ve lost. Is it even possible to get it back?

In these blinks, you’ll discover

why video conversations on Skype are less focused than real conversation;
how the many choices on online dating services leave us unsatisfied; and
why using the phone instead of talking to your kids at dinner has dire consequences.

Digital communication cannot replace in-person conversation when it comes to creating authentic social connections.

You’re meeting a friend for a drink and, just after you sit down, she pulls out her cellphone. Are you offended? Should you be offended?

Whether you’re ticked off or not, having a phone at the table disconnects us from the people right in front of us. Studies have shown that even having a muted phone on us when speaking with a friend changes the nature of our conversation. Knowing our attention may be needed elsewhere at any moment makes us revert to superficial conversation and steer away from more sensitive or emotional topics.

People also feel less connected to one another when there’s a phone lying on the table. This has become a noticeable problem and, in general, communication via digital media is hindering us from forming strong emotional bonds and empathy.

One recent study compared the interaction of college students communicating face-to-face with students communicating via digital means such as a video chat or online messaging. The results showed that the strongest emotional bond was created between the students communicating in person.

That’s because face-to-face communication has some clear advantages over digital devices: our faces allow for a direct connection between the words we speak and the feelings that accompany them. Also, those communicating in person can offer each other more attention than if they’re talking over Skype. For example, students will browse online or even watch videos while Skyping – something they wouldn’t do if they were sharing the same physical space with their conversation partner.

Ultimately, these new ways of interacting can have dire consequences. Studies have shown that college students are now displaying up to 40 percent fewer signs of empathy when interacting with others than was the case 20 years ago.

Solitude and reflection are vital for a healthy mind, and too much media gets in the way.

When was the last time you frittered an entire evening away on the net feeling increasingly dissatisfied with yourself? Probably not too long ago. Why do we all feel so unsettled when this happens? Because we’re robbing ourselves of precious solitude.

Even though you may be alone while surfing the net, time by yourself at your laptop is not that same as time spent in solitude and reflection.

Parents too busy on their phones risk depriving their kids of attention they need to develop.

Have you ever seen a parent with a screaming baby at a restaurant react by simply turning the baby’s face away from the table? It’s not the best way to react to an infant. But what about talking on the phone instead of answering your child’s question? Isn’t that the same thing?

How parents interact with their children is important as children learn from it.

Social media is creating new rules for friendship.

Remember the last time you logged into Facebook or some other social media to avoid feeling bored or anxious? Just the sense of being connected to others can soothe us, but there’s more to it than that. Social media makes it possible to connect to others while protecting us from displaying the vulnerability involved in face-to-face interaction.

The author conducted some interviews to better understand people’s views of interactions in the digital world. One high school senior, Rona, reported that she felt relaxed when texting. By “relaxed,” she meant she had the assurance of instant gratification by getting immediate responses to her messages from her friends. Texting also offered her a way to avoid showing vulnerability through her body or voice and gave her time to write something that made the impression she wanted.

Online love can easily become unreal.

Have you ever gotten excited about someone’s sexy, smart online profile only to be completely let down when you finally meet them? This is just one of the myriad ways the online world can play with our minds.

Especially when it comes to online dating, the amount of “matches” for us doesn’t make us as happy as we think.

Digital appliances have become unavoidable at work and at school, with some detrimental effects.

You’re sitting in a lecture and it’s boring you to death, so you reach for your phone and see what’s happening on your newsfeed. You’re just multitasking while keeping an eye on the lecture, so it’s okay, right? Well, it’s this kind of multitasking that decreases our efficiency and performance.

The trouble is, multitasking hooks us in as it gives us a neurochemical high that makes us feel as if we’re being incredibly efficient. But in reality, multitasking isn’t a human ability. We can only focus on one thing at a time, and if our brain is forced to switch back and forth between activities, it tires out and our performance plummets.

The Internet has made us less politically involved and threatens our privacy.

Have you found yourself sucked into an online call-to-action? It’s wonderful to think that over your morning coffee you can help stop child slave labor and bring down a dictatorial regime – but can you really? Clicking on a link isn’t real political involvement.

Take the petition against Joseph Kony, the leader of the Lord’s Resistance Army, a Ugandan guerilla group. When evidence of how Kony used child soldiers in militant groups in Africa became public online, it incited an outcry.

We can use the challenges of digital media to understand what we need more of as a society.

Think back to your last holiday. Did you leave your laptop or iPhone behind? Did you opt for accommodation without a WiFi connection? It might feel highly uncomfortable, but the initial panic of taking a real break from digital devices can give way to a sense of peace and timelessness.

One good reason to take a digital media break is to make space for your creativity – something we all need.

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Worum geht es in Reclaiming Conversation?

Reclaiming Conversation (2015) reflects on how we interact with one another in our increasingly digitized world. Constant interruptions, leaving messages unanswered and lack of interest have all become the norm in a world rife with mobile devices and screens. But is this what we want? And if not, what can we do about it?

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All thinking, strictly speaking, is done in solitude and is a dialogue between me and myself. – Hannah Arendt

—Sherry Turkle

Wer Reclaiming Conversation lesen sollte

Anyone who spends a lot of time in front of screens
Parents and caregivers
Anyone who wants to have more meaningful conversations

Über den Autor

Sherry Turkle is a psychologist specializing in human–technology interaction and psychoanalysis, and is the Abby Rockefeller Mauzé Professor of the Social Studies of Science and Technology at MIT. She has published several books on the effect of new media on society, such as Life on the Screen and Alone Together.

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