The Path Between Us summary

We all know those kind, generous people who live to help others. Whenever you’re in a tight spot, you can count on this person to drop his plans and come to your rescue. But what happens when helping others becomes a compulsive need? If this sounds familiar, then you’re probably dealing with our next personality type.

The key message here is: Twos need to be needed. 

The life of our next personality type revolves around one thing: success. The Three wants to achieve everything she sets her sights on. And even more importantly, she wants you to see her winning.  

The key message here is: Threes are goal-oriented and put less emphasis on emotions. 

Our next number on the Enneagram is the Four. Out of every personality type, he’s the most difficult to understand. Also known as Romantics, Fours have an irrepressible need to be uniquely and authentically themselves.

The key message here is: Fours can’t pretend to be something they’re not. 

If you found yourself in a personal crisis, what would be the first thing you’d do? If you’re anything like most people, you’d probably pick up the phone and call someone you trust. But if you fit the profile of our next personality type, then the thought of asking for help just makes you feel a whole lot worse. 

The key message here is: Fives want to be completely self-sufficient. 

You only have to pick up a newspaper to know that the world can be a scary place. But what happens when your whole worldview is dominated by the fear of what might be waiting for you around the corner? If this sense of dread feels familiar, then you’re probably a Six. 

The key message here is: Sixes are always anticipating the worst-case scenario. 

We all know that life is finite and that we have a limited amount of time to enjoy all of the thrills and variety that the world has to offer. But that doesn’t stop most of us from doing the same things, day in and day out. Many people find this familiarity comforting – but there’s one personality type who seeks out excitement.

The key message here is: Sevens want to be free to enjoy themselves. 

Some people are natural-born leaders. They’re confident, opinionated, and full of energy – eager to make things happen! But this desire to take charge can slip into overbearing or intimidating behavior. If all of these characteristics sound like someone you know, then you’re probably dealing with an Eight. 

The key message here is: Eights want to call the shots, all the time. 

Life’s a lot easier when people agree with each other. No yelling, no arguments – just peace and calm. Our last personality type couldn’t agree more. In fact, he’s so committed to getting along with people that every decision he makes is geared toward keeping the peace. 

The key message here is: Nines love to chill.