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Name: If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look On My Face?
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Author: Alan Alda

Alan Alda

My Adventures in the Art and Science of Relating and Communicating

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If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? is a non-fiction book written by Alan Alda that offers insights on communication techniques. It suggests ways to build empathy and understanding to improve communication, especially in fields such as science and medicine.

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What’s in it for me? Learn the subtle art of communication from a master of improv.

One day, award-winning actor and screenwriter Alan Alda sat in the dentist’s chair for what he thought would be a routine dental operation. He asked the dentist what procedure he was about to undergo, and the dentist impatiently mumbled, “tethering.” Alda had no idea what tethering was, but rather than start interrogating the man holding the scalpel, he shut up and allowed him to proceed.

If only Alda had continued the conversation. The dentist’s straightforward procedure was actually pretty experimental, and it left him unable to smile properly. Needless to say, that’s not great news for an actor!

Alda’s experience at the dentist shows just how important good communication is. We need to become great communicators if we want to understand what others want from us, as well as letting them know what we need. Alda explains how you can take advantage of the tools he developed in his career as an improviser, actor and interviewer. With these skills, you can become a master of communication.

In these blinks, you will discover

what playing an invisible instrument can do for you;
how showing too much empathy can sometimes damage communication; and
how to use the “Yes, and...” technique to improve your exchanges with others.

To ensure great communication, use your ignorance to make others feel comfortable.

Have you ever been stuck in a one-way conversation where the other person keeps rattling on, ignoring the fact that you just don’t get what on earth he’s talking about?

It’s not a great feeling, but you can avoid it by using ignorance. Along with curiosity, ignorance is the best tool for getting the most from your communication partner. Interviewers on television use this technique all the time on scientific guests.

The author used this exact technique when he interviewed a scientist specializing in AI, a topic about which he knew nothing. Rather than asking questions requiring technical, niche answers, the author asked whether specialists ever worried that robots might turn against and overthrow the human race – a broad and pretty naive question. Such a broad question elicited an entertaining answer that the whole audience, not just those with specific scientific knowledge, could appreciate.

Another key thing to remember is that good communication is, by definition, a shared experience.

When you communicate with someone, always be sure to make your partner feel comfortable. A great technique here is improvisation, which helps build both a connection and fellow feeling.

On one occasion, the author led an experimental improvisation session at the University of Southern California. The idea was to help students feel more at ease communicating with one another when they gave presentations.

Before they spoke, they were assigned certain activities. For instance, one student had to pretend to play an imaginary instrument, and one by one the remaining students joined in, each playing their own “instrument,” all following the rhythm of the first student.

This joint activity helped the students bond and relax. And, in the end, it made for far better presentations.

Good communication is both empathetic and rational.

If we want to communicate well, then we have to take advantage of the natural resonance that communication has with our emotions.

We know about this resonance from scientific research. Scientists have observed that, when a monkey watches another monkey grasping an object, something phenomenal happens: the observer monkey’s brain reacts as if it were performing, not observing, the action.

To communicate well, adjust to your audience and ensure your message is clear and engaging.

If you really want to communicate a point and get a message across, a great strategy is to be clear and captivating. The trick is to be memorable, and there’s nothing more memorable than a story.

Consider how David Muller spread the news of his creation of the thinnest glass ever made. To publicize his discovery, instead of a dull and technical spiel, he told a story. He relayed how he and a graduate student stumbled upon their invention by mistake. They had been working with graphene when they noticed some “muck” in the apparatus. They thought that an air leak might’ve been responsible, but, upon closer inspection, they realized that this muck was actually incredibly thin glass.

Improvisation techniques can assist in improving your abilities in reading nonverbal communication.

When it comes to communication, we often over-complicate things. We try to squeeze in too much information or be too clever with our words.

It's best to go back to basics. Words aren’t everything. So much of communication is nonverbal; body language, tone of voice and facial expression can all be put to good use in communication as they all operate on deep, intuitive levels.

The last two elements of great communication involve greater audience awareness.

By now you should have the basics of communication down. But there are two final approaches that need to be mastered. First, you’ve got to remember that different audiences require different styles of communication – that is, sometimes an audience needs lots of empathy and sometimes empathy should be kept in check.

The work of Helen Riess, Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, has shown just this.

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If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look On My Face? (2017) explains how improvisation techniques, as practiced by actors and comedians, can be used as training methods for better communication. Alda uses illuminating examples of miscommunications from his own life to show how we all can be better at relating and talking to one another.

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This process of allowing something you receive from another person to transform into something else is one of the most interesting experiences in improvising.

—Alan Alda

Wer If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look On My Face? lesen sollte

Anyone whose job involves communicating complex ideas to various and varied audiences
Leaders who want to improve their interpersonal skills and learn about empathy
Non-actors who want to learn how the craft really works

Über den Autor

Alan Alda is an award-winning actor who has won seven Emmy Awards. He is probably most famous for playing Hawkeye Pierce, on M*A*S*H. After hosting PBS’s Scientific American Frontiers, Alda was inspired to help scientists find better ways to communicate.

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