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How to Be Single – A Self-Love Guide!

Ditch the societal pressure and learn to love being single! Chase your dreams, create a life you crave, and be the single rockstar you are. Self-love is the trend!
by Chris Allmer | May 22 2024
How to be Single and Loving it!

Nearly half (46.4%!) of U.S. adults are single—that’s practically every other person you meet! 

Yet, society often throws shade, making us singles (high five!) feel like we’re not ‘complete.’ But hold on—what if society is wrong, and flying solo is actually amazing

I’m talking about spontaneous adventures, no compromises on movie night, and the freedom to chase those crazy dreams. Being single isn’t a sentence to loneliness; it’s an opportunity to create a life on our own terms!

And if you ever need a little extra inspiration to live your life to the fullest, Blinkist is here to help. Our curated book collection, “All Hail Singlehood,” is packed with quick book summaries and audio snippets to teach you how to be single and love it!

Dive in and learn how living alone can be amazing, how you can travel the world, and also how to explore your body and become your own greatest lover.

How to be Single and lovin’ it


1. The Art of Living Alone and Loving It by Jane Mathews

Feeling overwhelmed by societal expectations of coupledom? Jane Mathews‘ book is your warm hug and inspirational pep talk. It’s all about embracing the joys of living solo and creating a truly fulfilling life on your own terms.

Did you know? In 2022, there were an estimated 36.05 million single-person households in the U.S. So, relax, you are definitely not alone, living alone. And Jane Mathews’ book will equip you with the tools and inspiration to thrive in your own space.

2. The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck by Sarah Knight

Being single is about freedom, and Sarah Knight’s book is your guide to reclaiming your precious time and energy. Learn to set boundaries like a boss, prioritize what truly matters to you, and stop feeling obligated to please everyone else. It’s your life, live it on your terms!

3. Love Yourself by Sonya Renee Taylor 

Self-love is the foundation of a happy single life. Sonya Renee Taylor‘s powerful message will help you cultivate radical self-acceptance and embrace all the wonderful things that make you, you. You are worthy of love, starting with your own!

4. Sex for One by Betty Dodson

Also, Betty Dodson‘s book “Sex for One” is all about self-love in the sheets. But it’s not just about getting busy with yourself (although, hey, no judgment there!). 

It’s about unlocking your inner rockstar and building unshakeable confidence. Learn to explore your sexuality and discover a whole new level of self-acceptance.

You know, we love to love, especially ourselves, and if you need a bit of support with this, check out our list of the 17 best books for self-love.

5. Living Wild by Glennon Doyle 

Feeling a little lost or disconnected from yourself? Glennon Doyle‘s podcast episode is your wake-up call. Get ready to reconnect with your wild, authentic self and embrace the exciting possibilities that lie ahead.

6. Vagabonding by Rolf Potts 

The world is your oyster, single friend! Rolf Potts‘ “Vagabonding” will inspire you to ditch the tourist traps and embrace the adventure of solo travel. 

Imagine exploring hidden gems, learning about new cultures, and creating unforgettable memories – all on your own schedule. No need to wait for a travel buddy, the world awaits!

If you need more inspiration to pack your bag, check out our list of the best 45 Wanderlust books

7. Deeper Dating by Ken Page

Are you ready to date? “Deeper Dating” by Ken Page is your guide to ditching the games and the drama. Learn how to build meaningful connections and find someone who complements your amazing life (when you’re ready to share it, of course!). 

Remember: Dating shouldn’t be a headache, this book will help you find someone who gets you.

8. Opting Out by Cait Flanders

This book goes deep into the concept of intentional living, helping you define what truly matters to you and how to structure your life around those values. It’s all about designing a life you love, not just going through the motions.

And if you need a bit of inspiration on your search for your purpose as a single, take a look at our article “Embrace the Freedom: Top 10 Inspiring Being Single Quotes for a Journey of Self-Discovery

9. Going Solo by Eric Klinenberg

This book in our how to be single series also explores the rise of solo living and the various ways people create fulfilling lives on their own. Again, you’re not alone in flying solo, and this book can show you the many ways to thrive.

10. Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

This podcast episode provides a dose of optimism and encouragement, reminding you that you have the power to create the life you desire and free ourselves from other people’s ideas of who we should be.Forget outdated societal pressures. It’s not how to be single, it’s how you’re rocking it!

Prioritize yourself. Fall back in love with your amazing mind and body. Learn to thrive in your singlehood and make it an adventure!

And if you are feeling the societal noise -we’ve got your back. Dive into our curated collection, All Hail Singlehood, and also add the insightful article, “Singles Should Read This,” to your reading list.

Plus, with our 7-day trial, you get free access to all our book summaries and podcast episodes. They’re tailor-made for your dynamic, single lifestyle and will make you fall in love with yourself all over again.

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