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Simplify Sex and Love: Sex Advice Expert Dan Savage On How To Keep Not Breaking Up

In this episode of Simplify, Dan Savage talks to Caitlin about erotic autonomy, why porn could be good for your marriage, and how to sustain long-term love.
by Carrie M. King | Aug 27 2020

Dan Savage is an author and activist who initially found international fame through his widely-syndicated relationship and sex advice column, Savage Love. Published in Seattle’s The Stranger since 1991, a recorded version of the column, the Savage Lovecast, has been available to podcast audiences since 2006. In this episode of Simplify, co-host Caitlin speaks to Savage about how we can take a leaf out of his book to challenge our own views on love and as a result make life and love easier for ourselves and those around us.

“Monogamy is the only thing that we tell people that they have to execute perfectly throughout their entire lives to be any good at it.”
– Dan Savage

Please bear in mind that sexual terms and swearing crop up quite a lot in this episode, so it may not be suitable for younger ears.

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Who’s Dan Savage?

Born on October 7, 1964, Dan Savage is the author of four books, including American Savage, The Kid, and Skipping Towards Gomorrah: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Pursuit of Happiness in America, and a nationally syndicated advice column called Savage Love. He may be best known for dispensing sex and relationship advice through his podcast, Savage Lovecast, and for being a regular contributor to public radio shows like This American Life. Savage and his husband, Terry Miller, founded the It Gets Better Project, which offers hope to LGBT kids worldwide.

What’s Simplify?

Simplify is a podcast for anybody who’s taken a close look at their habits, their happiness, their relationships, or their health and thought “There’s got to be a better way to do this.” We talk to bestselling writers, productivity wizards, sex geniuses, and happiness experts to find it for you. Life is complicated, but living it better doesn’t have to be. Simplify.

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Who made this?

Your hosts are Caitlin Schiller and Ben Schuman-Stoler.

Stellar research and production assistance by the outstanding Nika Mavrody.

Thanks to Nico Guiang for our awesome intro and outro music. Listen more on Soundcloud or check him out on Facebook.

Sound and editing by Ody Constantinou who once memorized the first 10 arguments of Plato’s Symposium to impress his now-girlfriend.

Got links?

Dan Savage’s Podcast The Savage Lovecast

Famous study in the UK that concluded that all men watch porn.

The It Gets Better Project

Dan on This American Life

Alain de Botton‘s The Book of Life

Extra credit reading:

Esther Perel’s book Mating in Captivity and her new book, State of Affairs,

Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are by Seth Stephens-Davidowitz.

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