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121 First Dates
How to Succeed at Online Dating, Fall in Love, and Live Happily Ever After (Really!)
- Read in 15 minutes
- Audio & text available
- Contains 9 key ideas
121 First Dates (2016) is a woman’s guide to online dating. These blinks will help you create a winning profile, prepare for your first date and deal with the difficulties that crop up when looking for Mr. Right.
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Mentally prepare yourself before going on a first date.
On the stormy sea that is modern dating, any voyage is sure to be exciting. But before you set sail, it’s essential to prepare yourself – to batten down the hatches, so to speak.
First, it’s important to be able to bring yourself to a mental safe haven in case of emergency. This ability is the result of self-awareness; you need to know what you need and what makes you happy.
Maybe you feel cranky without a solid eight hours of sleep. Or perhaps you get tense if you don’t take a walk in the morning.
Once you’ve determined what you need to feel good, think about what makes you happy. These are things that you don’t necessarily need, but which add sparkle to your life. Maybe it’s going to the movies or getting a massage or reading a good novel.
Determining these desires in advance will make the contingency of dating less daunting. Whenever a date takes an unwanted turn, you’ll be able to fall back on yourself for support. Knowing yourself and what you want will empower you to find happiness internally, without relying on someone else.
The next step is to be sure you have an open mind before going out on a first date. This is very important – so important that you probably shouldn’t go on a first date straight after work when you’ll probably still be preoccupied with the worries of work.
Most people prefer hanging out with a woman who is relaxed and self-assured. So even if you only have an hour to take a bath, change your outfit and spruce yourself up, do it: such a routine can do wonders for your energy.
It’s also a good idea to set aside unrealistic expectations. Be prepared for the possibility that the two of you simply won’t click. If you aren’t expecting to meet prince charming, you’ll be less likely to go down the rabbit hole of wondering what your date thinks of you.
Being able to engage in good conversations and share funny or uplifting stories is usually the best litmus test of a date’s success.