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Name: Tell Me More
Rating: 3.9 (188 reviews)
Author: Kelly Corrigan

Kelly Corrigan

Stories About the 12 Hardest Things I'm Learning to Say

3.9 (188 Bewertungen)

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Tell Me More by Kelly Corrigan is a memoir that explores the power of the right words at the right time. Corrigan shares personal stories that offer insights on the importance of communication and vulnerability, inspiring readers to connect more deeply with themselves and others.

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What’s in it for me? A lexicon of life lessons.

Love, an old song has it, makes the world go round. It’s a nice idea, but unfortunately, there’s more to it than that. After all, every relationship has its ups and downs. Things go wrong and we mess up. Expressing our love for others also means apologizing, admitting mistakes and learning to listen.

In these blinks, acclaimed memoirist and storyteller Kelly Corrigan takes a look at the phrases that keep our most important relationships on track. Drawing on her experiences as a daughter, mother and wife, Kelly uses her family life as a springboard to examine the power of choosing the right words at the right time.

From acknowledging that life is “just like this” to the profound admission that “I was wrong,” these phrases are like grease on the wheels of life – they keep things turning. And, as Kelly shows, they can get us through crises, arguments and grief.

In the following blinks, you’ll learn

why neither faith nor reason holds all the answers to life’s mysteries;
what a poorly behaved family pet taught Kelly about apologies; and
why you don’t need to be perfect to get the most out of your life.

When everything goes wrong, all we can do is accept that it’s “just like this.”

One day, Kelly Corrigan’s life fell apart – or rather, she fell apart. Her father Greenie had died of cancer three months earlier, and the grief had become overwhelming. Everything left a sour taste in her mouth.

It was a regular morning in the Corrigan household. Kelly woke, as usual, to the smell of her husband Edward making himself bacon. But by the time she’d put her slippers on, her blood pressure had already spiked. The phone was ringing and no one was picking up. Edward couldn’t hear it and their two kids – 14-year-old Claire and 16-year-old Georgia – were busy fighting in the hallway.

Kelly felt a wave of resentment as she realized she’d have to sort the girls out. Edward adopted the laissez-faire “let them fight” attitude that he’d come across in the only parenting book he’d read, which suited him down to the bone. At this moment, Kelly didn’t recall that she’d actually fallen in love with “Easy Ed.” Today, it only occurred to her that this was another brawl he’d miss, leaving her to deal with the fallout once again.

By the time everyone was ready to leave the house, Kelly was close to exploding. Surveying the kitchen, she saw slimy eggshells on the counter and clumps of the family dog’s fur under the table. She hadn’t even taken a sip of coffee, and there was Edward, shaven, showered, fed and ready for work. The fact that he was about to leave her to stew in spitefulness just made things worse.

Alone, she reflected on what had happened. She loved her family more than anything, and she hated the idea of becoming a nagging, self-pitying sourpuss that her husband couldn’t wait to get away from in the morning. What had gone wrong?

That’s when Kelly remembered the motto of her meditation teacher – sometimes, it’s “just like this.” Life can suck. When it does, we lose our bearings and become disoriented and irritable. Deep down, we know our rage is futile – no one, after all, really believes that berating the gods will bring back a parent or make stretch marks disappear. But that doesn’t stop us from falling into the trap that Kelly found herself in that day. All we can do is accept our current circumstances and weather the storm.

Sometimes the best way of helping someone you love is listening, rather than giving advice.

Parents are problem-solvers. Before Claire or Georgia are halfway through explaining an issue, Kelly already has five ideas about what they should do to fix it. As kids grow up, however, they need to start figuring things out for themselves. Parents can help them do that by listening instead of presenting readymade answers.

That’s hard. As Kelly’s old college buddy and fellow parent Tracy puts it, it’s a bit like watching someone labor over a puzzle while the final piece is in your pocket. Parents hate watching their kids suffer, so of course they want to give them that missing piece. Tracy and Kelly were discussing this during a long car ride to a college reunion party when Georgia called, then aged eleven. It was a remarkable coincidence.

Neither faith nor reason hold the answers to life’s mysteries.

Kelly’s Irish-American parents both grew up in a devout Catholic community in 1940s Baltimore. As her father told her, faith was simple – you believed because everyone else did. The rest just fell into place. Folks ate fish on Fridays, went to mass and lived in the hope of receiving their ultimate reward in the afterlife. Doubt didn’t come into it.

But for Kelly, things were different. Religion was still a social glue, but it wasn’t a source of certainty about the nature of the universe. Church, for Kelly, was above all a sensory experience. She loved the taste of Communion, the smell of incense and the sound of the organ. And it was also the best place to meet boys!

Saying no is a key part of healthy relationships.

Nothing comes as easily to children as saying no. As we develop, however, we lose the ability to effortlessly reject ideas or requests. Saying no feels lazy, rude, mean or stingy. In fact, the term hardly has a single positive association. But it’s a vital part of relationships. That’s something Kelly discovered in her late thirties.

As a kid, Kelly was notorious for her obstinacy. Once, her mother Mary refused to buy dozens of expensive hoagie sandwiches for a birthday party, ordering pizza instead. Kelly was furious. Hoping to force her mom’s hand, she declared that she didn’t like cheese – a food she positively adored. She didn’t back down, even after the ruse had failed. She didn’t eat a single piece of cheese for the next ten years!

The only thing to say when you screw up is “I was wrong.”

There’s one member of the Corrigan household we haven’t met yet – Hershey the dog. Kelly got her after a friend told her it was a great way to teach kids about responsibility. However, Kelly ended up taking charge of Hershey’s training herself. It was a pretty bare-bones regimen, and Hershey’s poor behavior is a hair-trigger issue for Kelly. Why? Well, it’s a constant reminder of her own lack of discipline.

Hershey’s worst habit is drinking out of the toilet. That’s far from ideal at the best of times, but the Corrigans also happen to live in arid California. Being environmentally conscious, they try to save water when they can. This means only flushing their upstairs toilet every second time someone pees. Despite Kelly’s constant reminders, however, Claire and Georgia occasionally forget to flush after other uses, too.

You don’t have to be perfect – “good enough” is plenty.

Every Tuesday, Kelly takes a stroll through the hilly Oakland neighborhood of Piedmont with her friend Ariel, a psychotherapist whose kids attend the same school as Claire and Georgia. When Ariel’s daughter Ruby celebrated her bat mitzvah, a religious initiation ceremony for Jewish girls, she invited Kelly along.

It was a remarkable occasion. Aged just 13, Ruby was calmness personified as she recited Hebrew texts, told stories from the Old Testament and delivered a drash, or sermon, to the entire congregation. To get to that point, she’d spent years attending Hebrew school and one-on-one tutorials with her rabbi, and completed a major community project.

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Tell Me More (2019) is a meditation on the phrases that allow us to express love and connect with others. Built around a series of intimate personal essays, Kelly Corrigan’s study of life’s many frustrations and joys cements her critical reputation as a “poet laureate of the ordinary.” Unflinchingly honest and often downright hilarious, Corrigan’s reflections are an endlessly thought-provoking exploration of the meaning of death, friendship, parenthood and, above all, love.

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Being in our lives as they are is probably one of the most common struggles people have going back thousands of years.

—Kelly Corrigan

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New parents wondering what’s in store for them
Anyone who’s lost a loved one
The philosophically minded

Über den Autor

Kelly Corrigan is a best-selling author based in Oakland, California. Hailed as the voice of her generation by O: The Oprah Magazine, her previous books include The Middle Place, Lift and Glitter and Glue. Corrigan is also the creative director of the Nantucket Project, an annual conference bringing together some of today’s most exciting thinkers and creatives.

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