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Name: Stop Doing That Sh*t
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Author: Gary John Bishop

Gary John Bishop

End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back

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What’s in it for me? Overcome the subconscious beliefs that are sabotaging your efforts to change your life.

Have you ever wrestled a sofa up your driveway and into your house on your own, just because you didn’t realize you could ask for help? No?

Okay, try this on for size – have you ever gone into a spiral of doubt and anxiety because life was feeling too good?

Or what about any time you trip up just before crossing the finish line of a longterm goal?

If any of this sounds uncomfortably familiar, don’t worry– you’re in good company.

Author and personal development coach, Gary John Bishop has directly experienced unconscious self-sabotage himself, and seen it at work in countless clients who he’s helped to turn around their lives. So when he explains what self-sabotage is, where it comes from, and how you can stop yourself from unconsciously engaging in it, he knows what he’s talking about.

In this Blink, you’ll discover why other forms of self-help might not have helped you in the past. You’ll come to realize and accept the unconscious thoughts that are keeping you from actually achieving your dreams. You’ll take responsibility for your life and your actions. And you’ll find that you truly are in the best of hands – your own.

The cycles of self-sabotage

Have you ever heard someone describing a self-sabotaging friend? We all nod along and agree, their life could be so great if they stopped getting in their own way. But…what exactly does self-sabotage entail?

Well, let’s look at the basics of sabotage first. What does it mean to sabotage something? It means to intentionally destroy, hinder, or hurt someone or something. So add the self part on the front of the word, and we have… that’s right, we have someone intentionally harming themself or their own efforts at something.

But you’d never do that to yourself, would you?

Unfortunately, you almost certainly do. Don’t worry, we’ll dive into how to stop self-sabotaging later in this Blink, but right now, let’s stay focused on how you might be self-sabotaging without even realizing it.

Have you ever reached a point in life and thought, hey, my life is really going well?

Then what happens? Do you start to stress about what terrible things might be just around the corner that will upset everything? Maybe you start to make nervous, scared decisions instead of embracing the unknown. Or maybe you pull back from life, scared that you’re about to make some grave mistake.

And then bam, it hits. Your car breaks down at the same time your pet needs a big medical procedure, and then you lose your job. But wait, those are all external issues that just happened to you, right? You couldn’t have caused any of that to happen.

Take a closer look.

Did you skip your oil change because you were so busy worrying about your job that you couldn’t take the time to take your car in? Were you skimping on your pet’s medication because you were worried about some impending loss of income? Had you been distracted and making tons of mistakes at work because you were obsessively trying to predict when your fortunes would fall?

This is self-sabotage at its finest. The worrying, the stressing, the fretting about when the other shoe’s going to drop. It might not seem like it, but these thoughts can subtly – or sometimes not so subtly! – influence your actions, which then leads to the dreaded losing it all. And yet, had you not been so stressed or anxious, you’d still be doing just fine.

So you hit the rough patch, and you tell yourself this time you’ll really make it, this time you’ll work so hard that life will have to be good to you. You build yourself back up, things start looking really good again. Then wham, things explode in your face once more.

And the cycle repeats, and repeats…and repeats.

For many people, these cycles of self-sabotage continue despite all the self-help ideas out there. Why? We’ll explore that in the next section.

The true impact of the past

Ever heard the saying, those who don’t learn from the past are doomed to repeat it? But what about those of us who know our pasts and still mess up in the same ways?

There are two big mistakes we make when thinking about our past and how it affects our lives. The first is in thinking the past has absolutely no influence on the present. The second is in thinking the past directly controls the present.

Uncovering your three saboteurs

Bishop outlines three saboteurs that everyone has deep in their unconscious. These are the three thoughts that keep us reverting to the same unhelpful actions instead of truly breaking free of our past and charting a different course for our life. They take the form of three statements – a statement about ourselves, a statement about other people, and a statement about life.

Though these saboteurs, or sabotaging statements, take the same form for everyone, they are unique for each person. Your set of hidden beliefs will be different than your best friend’s, your parents’, your partner’s. So what are the statements exactly?

The final steps to improving your life

Alright, so you’ve figured out what three thoughts are sabotaging your best efforts at improving your life. Now, you can start actually working toward the life you want to be living.

Part of the reason those three saboteurs have such a great impact on our lives is that we humans need to feel secure. We like to know what to expect from life, other people, ourselves. And so, if our underlying conclusions about those things are negative, we inevitably search for evidence that life really is unfair, or that we really are unworthy, and so on. That’s what leads us to choose actions that counteract our conscious goals and dreams – the subconscious need to be proven right about those three hidden saboteurs.

Final Summary

Remember what we said way back in the introduction? You’re in the best of hands – your own. Hopefully by now you see how much power you really have. You have the ability to uncover your subconscious beliefs, to accept them and to move forward despite your past. You have the ability to truly change your life, if you can just uncover and accept your personal saboteurs.

As you move forward, remember to check in every once in a while. Our saboteurs are wily things – you might accept and nullify one set only to find a new set crops up.

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Stop Doing That Sh*t (2019) dives into the subconscious to explore how and why we self-sabotage ourselves. Discover why just thinking positively or deciding to change doesn’t help us to actually improve ourselves. Then, learn a method for finally overcoming the hidden thoughts that have been unconsciously ruling our lives.

Wer Stop Doing That Sh*t lesen sollte

Self-saboteurs of all stripes
Hard workers who periodically get in their own way
Anyone looking for a no-nonsense guide to improving their life

Über den Autor

Gary John Bishop is a motivational speaker and author. His other books include Unf*ck Yourself and Wise as F*ck.

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