Unlimited Power (1989) is a powerful, useful guide to overcoming fear, uncertainty and the feelings of unworthiness that can plague your life. With a few mental and physical exercises to help generate positive thoughts and improve body language, you can achieve the goals in life that truly matter to you.
If you’ve ever suffered from depression, you probably know that one of the most powerful triggers is feeling like a failure. Perhaps you flunked a test or made a poor business investment and suddenly the cycle of darkness begins.
In reality, there is no such thing as failing.
Indeed, if your definition of failure entails not getting the results you’d hoped for, then you could call the world’s most successful people “failures.”
The difference between successful people and everyone else is that successful people see “failure” as an opportunity to grow and learn.
Consider this scenario: You leave home to start your own business, but it goes bust by the time you’re 21 years old. Soon afterward, you lose a partner to disease; then in your 30s and 40s, you try to start a career in politics but end up losing one election after another.
You might call this life trajectory a string of failures and, in despair, give up entirely. Or you could do what Abraham Lincoln did. This narrative was his life, and instead of throwing in the towel, he learned from his experiences. He then went on to become one of the most celebrated presidents in US history.
Thomas Edison also didn’t believe in failure. He never gave up in his quest to create the light bulb, even after 9,999 unsuccessful attempts.
Edison didn’t consider his previous attempts to be failures. Instead, each one was a discovery that revealed a new way of how not to create a light bulb.
Throughout history, successful people have learned from mistakes and have been unafraid to try again.
This is good advice for personal misunderstandings as well. Sometimes, even when we’re trying to be positive and loving, our actions can lead to hurt feelings.
In these cases, instead of becoming defensive or blaming the other person for misinterpreting your words or actions, try to understand why your message was misunderstood.
Maybe it wasn’t what you said but rather how you said it. Consider your tone of voice and how you expressed yourself. And once you figure out how the problem arose, be sure to try again.