The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck (2015) is your definitive guide to freeing up your time, money and energy. These blinks teach you how to stop caring about the things that don’t serve you so you can focus your attention on the parts of life that bring you joy.
As we get older, we tend to stop caring about certain things, like being in perfect shape, keeping up with reality TV shows or following celebrity gossip.
But there are other things that are harder to let go of. Most of us have things in our lives that we wish we didn’t care so much about, but it’s difficult to shake them loose.
To change this, you need to explore the Not Sorry Method.
This method has two main steps. The first is to decide that you won’t give a fuck about a certain thing; the second is to actually not give a fuck about the thing. What’s more, you should not feel sorry about your lack of interest!
For instance, let’s say you hate attending baby showers. You receive your umpteenth invitation to a shower and this time, you decide you won’t go. You don’t give a fuck, so you make decisions accordingly!
Not giving a fuck doesn’t mean you should disregard the feelings of others, but you should ignore their opinions. You can’t control what other people think, and really, their opinions are the least of your worries.
Opinions don’t matter; feelings do. Unless you want to be a jerk, you need to consider how other people feel and, while not caring about some things is great, you don’t want your actions to wreck your relationships.
Let’s say you detest the all-natural peanut butter that your friend makes and sells. She wants you to attend one of her peanut butter parties, but your impulse is to just tell her how much you hate the stuff.
Doing so, however, would hurt her feelings. The better option is to politely but honestly decline her invitation. You can let your friend know that you don’t share her love for peanut butter in general, which is honest and a stance that won’t necessarily burn any bridges.
So that’s the basics behind the Not Sorry Method. Next you’ll learn how to deploy it, step by step.